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The big day of remembrance is parental Saturday. Commemoration of the dead on parental Saturday

This expression - "parental Saturday" - we have all heard more than once. Of course, the name itself says, it seems, that she should be somehow connected with her parents or the older generation. But is it? And what should be done on this day?

To begin with, the main thing is that there is not one parental Saturday in the year, there are several of them. The first one is today February 10. However, first things first.

First, about why Saturday was chosen for commemoration. This tradition has been going on since biblical times, when this day was considered a day of rest. And peace is the best state for prayer and remembrance of those who are no longer with us.

The first and closest parental Saturday to us is called Meatless universal Parental Saturday- it falls two weeks before Lent. This year, we repeat February 10.

Then, before the Trinity, on the 49th day after Easter, precedes the beginning of the Apostolic Lent Trinity Ecumenical Parental Saturday (May 26). Pay attention - both of these Saturdays, both Myasopustnaya and Trinity, are ecumenical. On such days, ecumenical requiems are served in churches, and during the day all the deceased Orthodox Christians, without exception, are commemorated.

During Great Lent (2nd, 3rd, 4th Saturdays, that is, this year, March 3, March 10 And March 17) these days are specially set for commemoration, since at this time the traditional daily commemoration of the dead has been canceled.

There are also so-called Saturdays of small fasts- this last Saturdays before the Christmas (November 28 - January 6), Petrovsky, or Apostolic (June 4 - July 11) and Assumption (August 14 - August 27) fasts. These days, the commemoration of the dead is also traditionally performed.

In addition, the dead are commemorated on Dimitrievskaya (November 3), Pokrovskaya and Mikhailovskaya Saturdays, although this period is not marked as a funeral. These are the so-called Private parenting days.

The departed are remembered Radonitsa. In 2018, it falls on April 17. Note that this is Tuesday. Radonitsa comes nine days after Easter. On Radonitsa it is also supposed to visit the graves of relatives and put them in order.

On February 10, the Parents' Saturday closest to us, churches and cemeteries are traditionally visited. And the first is more important than the second. On this day, with the most sincere, brightest words, they pray for the departed loved ones, asking for the peace of their souls in the next world. It is necessary to order special commemorations.

At the end of the service, which must be defended to the end, it is necessary, if possible, to distribute alms to those who are in need, to whom you can at least somehow help. This is how they remember those who, according to church rules, are not remembered - including those who have not been baptized and who have died voluntarily. When visiting the grave of deceased relatives, it is supposed to put it in order and pray.

By tradition, on the Ecumenical parental Saturday, kutya, a dish made from honey and wheat, was placed on the table. Now, for obvious reasons, rice is used instead of wheat, which is boiled with the addition of honey and raisins. Cooking kutya according to the rules is easy:

1. Rinse the rice before cooking, cook the grits until cooked without pre-soaking. Rice should be soft but crumbly.

2. Boil syrup from honey and sugar, add to rice (to taste).

3. Steam dried fruits, dry, cut into small pieces and mix with rice.

4. Transfer the finished kutia to the dishes in a small slide. Top kutya can be decorated with nuts or raisins. Sometimes raisins are kneaded inside, this is not forbidden. If you decide so, pre-fry the raisins with honey or sugar in butter in a pan.

But extra tears on this day are not welcome. Blessed memory, the best memories and kind words addressed to the departed are the best memory of them.

As for the implementation of other rules, for the most part simply established traditionally, it is believed that on this day you can do household chores, but do not overwork yourself, it is worth helping as many people as possible. But to arrange a "commemoration" in the sense of a feast, and even with alcohol, is not worth it. In extreme cases, it is permissible to drink a little wine, while strong drinks are prohibited.

TO THE POINT

Another day of remembrance is the seventh Thursday after Easter, the so-called Semik. To commemorate those who have gone to Semik is a purely folk tradition. On this day, they also remember the dead voluntarily and unbaptized. Semik falls on May 24 this year.

The Orthodox tradition pays great attention to the memory of the dead. The dead Christians are commemorated in churches several times a year on Saturdays. But there is a special, parental Saturday, when funeral services are served in the church, paying attention to the deceased relatives, and people hold a wake and visit cemeteries. Due to the long-term negative attitude of the Soviet authorities towards religion, when traditions and rituals were banned and some customs were forgotten, now many are at a loss as to how to spend parental Saturday.

In particular, people are concerned about what is needed and what cannot be done on this day, what needs to be carried with them to the cemetery and to church. Our ancestors tried to spend the parental Saturday with dignity, filled with events as much as possible, since, according to tradition, it was necessary to have time to complete a lot of deeds and rituals. Let's take a closer look at how to properly commemorate the dead on parental Saturday, and how it differs from other days.

In the Orthodox calendar, there are several dates of commemoration in the year. But the most revered among the people are those that precede major religious holidays, as before the Trinity, Shrovetide, Intercession. Despite the name "parental", this does not mean that this Saturday is intended to commemorate exclusively their deceased fathers and mothers. This name comes, rather, from the root "genus", since traditionally people are the first to commemorate their closest relatives, but it follows - all deceased acquaintances.

The following key memorial days are distinguished:

Meatless Saturday;
Radonitsa;
Troitskaya;
Dimitrovskaya.

On the eve of the celebration of the Maslenitsa week, before Great Lent, in all Orthodox churches there is an ecumenical, or great parental Saturday - the day of commemoration of the ancestors. This parental Saturday before Easter is also called Meat-Pustnaya. This name is due to the fact that this Saturday falls before the Meat Day - the last day before Lent, when believers can afford to eat meat.

A date is also singled out, which comes not before, but after the big Christian holiday. This is the parental Saturday after Easter, also called Radonitsa. It is celebrated on the ninth day after Bright Sunday, and it always falls on Tuesday, but according to folk tradition, they want to go to the cemetery on Saturday. As a rule, this day is celebrated in April, unless Easter is late (then Radonitsa falls in May). The specific number of Radonitsa can be found on the calendar, since it is directly tied to Easter, which, as you know, happens on different dates every year.

The next major Saturday is celebrated on the eve of the celebration of the Trinity. This parental memorial day differs from the rest in that traditionally people used a large amount of greenery and flowers in ritual actions. People also attach great importance to Dmitrievskaya parental Saturday, which is celebrated in early November. This is the last special Saturday of the year, and therefore the people prepared for it especially carefully.

Dmitrievsky parental memorial day is also traditionally intended for a special commemoration of the soldiers who fell for the Motherland.

Important moments of parental Saturday

The key event of any parental Saturday is going to church and then to the cemetery. Divine liturgy for the dead is served in churches, priests perform panikhidas over the graves at the churchyard, and people in church and at home read special prayers for the repose of the souls of the dead. To spend parental Saturday correctly, you need to go to church a little earlier than the service. This is necessary in order to have time to submit a note of repose in the church. In this note, indicate the names given to the deceased relatives and friends at baptism (sometimes they do not match the secular names of people).

In addition, it is not customary to go to church empty-handed on parental Saturday. According to a long tradition, a special table for offerings has been installed in the temple. To this end, it is customary to bring food, usually lenten, to the church, as well as Cahors red wine, which is then used to celebrate the liturgy. Please note that other types of alcohol, such as vodka or cognac, cannot be carried as an offering to the house of God. It is interesting that earlier there was a custom to collect food and wine by the whole world, and after the service, one large table was laid in the courtyard of the temple, at which the parishioners then commemorated their relatives of the deceased. Now this tradition can still be found in small towns or villages, but for the most part it has already disappeared from modern life. Today, the products that were brought by the parishioners on parental Saturday are used for the needs of the parish and to help the poor.

According to Orthodox church rules, it is right to commemorate the dead in this way. You need to come to the church twice - first on the eve of the parental Saturday and then in the morning on the memorial day. On Friday, go to the evening service, during which the Great Requiem and Parastas are performed. Then, in the morning, go back to church to attend the Divine Liturgy and the general memorial service. According to the clergy, it is very important to pray for the dead, since only prayer can help them find peace. Few people foresaw their departure from life and managed to communicate with the priest, who absolved them of their sins. And therefore, only living relatives who, with their fervent prayers, ask the Almighty for forgiveness for the deceased, can remove the burden of sins from them.

After the service on parental Saturday, it is customary to immediately go to the cemetery. There it is necessary to put in order the grave and the territory next to it, change the flowers on the grave. It is permissible to commemorate the dead in the cemetery by sipping a little alcohol and having a bite. But the official church categorically opposes large feasts at the cemetery. The main memorial dinner on parental Saturday should be arranged after returning home. There you can gather relatives and at the set table remember with a kind word your deceased relatives and close friends.

Do not forget to give alms on the way to the cemetery and from it and treat the beggars with food, who can often be found at the gates of the churchyard. This gesture of mercy corresponds to one of the key dogmas of Orthodoxy - to help your neighbor.

controversial issues

Many people are worried about whether it is permissible to do their usual household chores on parental Saturday - to do laundry or work around the house. The clergy have no prohibitions on this matter. Moreover, a special Sabbath initially suggests that a person must certainly go to the cemetery in order to:

remove the area there;
if necessary, correct the cross;
fix the fence
decorate the headstone.

Women, on the other hand, need to set the funeral table, which is also a kind of work. And it is necessary to treat the poor with a pie so that they pray for the dead. therefore, you can safely do everything planned and not worry about the prohibitions on physical labor on parental day. On the other hand, the priests point out that no work should be an obstacle in order to visit the church on the parental Saturday and on the eve of it and listen to the service.

There are also a number of questions regarding other worldly matters that fall on Parents' Sabbath. In particular, there are situations when newlyweds set a wedding date without consulting the church calendar, and as a result, their marriage falls on their parents' Saturday. When they find out about this, they begin to worry and fill their heads with unpleasant superstitions about this. Although the priests have a more loyal view on this issue than one might imagine. The clergy say that on Saturday the wedding is not held in the church, and you can sign in the registry office freely. Another thing is that it is not very convenient to play a wedding on the eve of major religious holidays, such as, for example, on Trinity parental Saturday. The very first days of summer are considered the beginning of the season of weddings, and therefore many newlyweds find themselves in a double situation on Trinity Parents' Day. According to the priests, believers on this day should be absorbed in preparing for the celebration of the Trinity - one of the largest religious holidays. This means that people need to go to the evening service the day before and confess. Therefore, a wedding on this parental Saturday may be unacceptable.

If the date of the wedding on Trinity Parental Saturday has already been set, and there is no way to change it, folk wisdom has saved up a few rituals to help come to terms with this. It was believed that on the morning before the celebration, the newlyweds, each individually, should visit the cemetery in order to put fresh flowers on the graves of their closest relatives. In the event that one of the parents of the newlyweds did not live to see this solemn day, it is important to come together to the grave in order to ask the deceased for a marriage blessing.

Ancient traditions of parental Saturdays

To this day, a huge layer of rituals associated with holding parental Saturdays has been preserved. There are also many signs that people still pay attention to. For example, rain was expected on Radonitsa. A downpour or light rain meant that a rich harvest would be harvested in the fall. People even tried to call for rain, looking at the clouds. If the heavens had mercy on their requests, and the first drops fell, then everyone hurried to collect rainwater in their palms in order to wash themselves with it. It was believed that this ritual brings happiness and good luck. And young girls and women used rainwater in even more intricate ways. They collected it in a container intended for this and then put gold or silver rings into the water - whoever had what wealth. Our ancestors believed that this ritual kept the girls young and pretty.

Even more unusual traditions have been preserved on the Trinity parental Saturday. Our ancestors were sure that on parental Saturday their deceased relatives could go out into the world of the living for a while to communicate with their loved ones. It was believed that on the eve of the Trinity, their spirits hid in greenery - flowers, bushes, herbs and trees. Therefore, people hurried to visit the cemetery on this day in order to decorate the graves of the deceased with fresh green herbs and bright flowers.

As on Radonitsa, Trinity Memorial Saturday in the old days was divided into three parts.

If everything is clear with the first two points, then what happened on the evening of parental day? The elderly stayed at home and spent the evening in prayer, but the youth gathered for fun. It should be noted that parental Saturdays were not only days of commemoration of the dead, but also a kind of holiday praising life. On Trinity parental Saturday, the youth gathered together near the reservoir. On the banks of lakes or rivers, they lit large fires and had fun.

But Dmitrievskaya Saturday was famous for feasts. If on the parental Saturday after Easter the memorial table should have been covered with Easter dishes, then in the autumn the key meal of the parental memorial day was a variety of pies. According to tradition, preparations for this day began on Friday. On Friday evenings, after dinner was over, the hostesses would completely clear the table and cover it with a fresh tablecloth. Then the table was covered with new food. With this symbolic gesture, the souls of the deceased were invited to the table. After that, all family members had to thoroughly wash themselves in the bath. The last of those who visited the steam room left water and a broom in the tub so that the deceased relatives could freshen up.

On parental Saturday, after the traditional visit to the church and cemetery, people proceeded to a large memorial meal. On this day, the hostesses laid a rich table. The main dishes were the favorite food of the deceased relatives. Also certainly put on the table;

pancakes;
uzvar (compote, cooked from dried fruits);
kutya;
jelly;
roast;
pies.

According to tradition, pies on this day should have been oblong. Also, another tradition associated with pies concerned people who had recently married. Those who got married in October had to prepare a special funeral cake and take it with them to the cemetery.

There was also a special ritual on this parental Saturday. A clean plate intended for the deceased was placed on the table with a memorial dinner. Each of the participants in the memorial meal put on this dish a spoonful of food from their plate. This plate was not removed at night. It was believed that the souls of the dead were treated to dinner at night.

Modern people partially continue to follow the traditions of their ancestors. A striking example is that at the memorial meal there is always an empty plate and a glass covered with a piece of bread. From the point of view of the clergy, this is nothing more than a relic of pagan traditions, since there is no such rite in the Christian faith. But many priests are condescending towards such actions of members of their parish. But what, in their opinion, must be done on parental Saturday is to visit the temple.

In the event that a person cannot come to church due to illness or is on the road that day, then you just need to pray for the souls of the dead. Prayer is of key importance, and it will be possible to come to the cemetery to remove the grave of deceased relatives on any other convenient day.

Parental Saturdays are of great importance in the life of Orthodox believers. These days are intended to commemorate the dead and cleanse the soul.

In the Orthodox calendar for 2018 you will find all the main holidays that are celebrated by the Russian Orthodox Church. Parental Saturdays, marked in it, are a way to honor the memory of the forefathers who gave us life, as well as all those who died for the Orthodox faith.

Not every Parents Saturday falls on the sixth day of the week. Those that "fall" on the Sabbath days are usually called Ecumenical.

Ecumenical Parental Saturdays in 2018

Opens the list Meatless Saturday, which will be celebrated February 10. On this day, all relatives who have completed their earthly journey are commemorated. For the living, this holiday is a reminder of the mortal life that must be spent cultivating an immortal soul in purity and good intentions.

Trinity Parents Saturday will take place before the church feast of the Holy Trinity, and its date is 26 of May. On the fiftieth day after the Resurrection of the Lord, all the dead are commemorated without exception, including those who passed away voluntarily or went missing.

Parental Saturdays of Great Lent

These Saturdays are distinguished by the fact that after the festive church liturgy, the faithful remain for a memorial service, in which their deceased relatives are mentioned. The priests are given notes in advance with the names of those for whose souls they want to pray.

First Saturday will take place during the second week of Great Lent, and its date is March, 3rd.

Second Saturday marked in the 2018 church calendar 10th of March, and its time is the third week of fasting.

Third Saturday will take place March 17. It is final and takes place during the fourth week of fasting.

Private parenting days in 2018

Such days exist only in the practice of the Russian Church, and at this time you have the opportunity to pray for the souls of people who have found peace in Heaven.

May 9 at the solemn liturgy, the Russian people bow their heads in reverence for the fallen soldiers who gave their lives during the Great Patriotic War. Tears of joy interspersed with universal sorrow for the millions of the fallen, who showed exceptional valor and courage.

April 17 Radonitsa is celebrated, which follows exactly on the ninth day after Easter.

11 September serve a memorial service for Orthodox soldiers who laid down their heads during the battle for the Faith, the Tsar and the Fatherland.

the 3rd of November comes Dimitriev parental Saturday. She refers us to the exploits of Dmitry Thessalonica, who died a great martyr.

These Orthodox holidays show us the meaning of human life. During church services, everyone understands that worldly life is short and can end at any moment, while the immortal soul will continue to exist and will be responsible for all our deeds.

Pray to the Higher Powers to help you avoid hardships and problems on the path of life. Take time daily for spiritual development, which not only cleanses the soul, but also attracts good things to life. We wish you health and happiness, and do not forget to press the buttons and

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Orthodox Christians know a lot about the miraculous properties of prayers. Remembering the deceased, they help to cleanse his soul...

Parental Saturdays are days of special commemoration of the departed, when with our prayers we can provide great help to our relatives and friends who have passed away from earthly life. Five of them are reserved for the commemoration of deceased relatives, two more and the requiems performed at the same time are called ecumenical. Parental Sabbaths involve the observance of certain rules that all believers should be aware of.

The Deep Meaning of Parental Saturday

Please note that hard liquor, such as vodka or cognac, is not accepted as a donation.

If desired and possible, you can order a memorial service, and after prayers are completed, you are allowed to visit the cemetery, put the grave in order, replace the flowers, thereby showing that you keep the memory of a loved one.

How to spend the rest of the day on parental Saturday and can I clean up? Archpriest Alexander Ilyashenko for the online publication Pravoslavie i Mir answers this question as follows: the ban on cleaning the house on this day is nothing more than superstition, of course, you need to start the day with visiting the temple, praying, visiting the cemetery, and after if necessary, you can perform the usual household chores.

Another important question that worries believers is whether it is possible to baptize a child on parental Saturday? Hegumen Alexy (Diocese of Vladivostok) and other priests of the Russian Orthodox Church recall a simple rule - you can baptize a child on all days without restrictions.

For the period of Lent in 2019, the following parental Saturdays fall:

March 23 - Parent ecumenical Saturday of the second week of Great Lent
March 30 - Parent ecumenical Saturday of the third week of Great Lent
April 6 - Parent ecumenical Saturday of the fourth week of Great Lent.

P.S. Prayer for the deceased is the sacred duty of every Christian. A great reward and great consolation awaits the one who, through his prayers, will help his departed neighbor receive the forgiveness of sins.

A wonderful spring holiday that bears the name International Women's Day, or, simply and briefly " March 8', noted in many countries of the world.

In Russia, March 8 is an official holiday, an additional day off .

In general, in our country this date was declared a holiday from the moment of the widespread establishment of Soviet power, and after half a century it also became a day off. In the USSR, the celebration largely had a political context, since historically the event in honor of which the holiday was established was an important day in the struggle of workers for their rights. And also it was on March 8, 1917 (according to the old style, according to the new - February 23, 1917) from the strike of workers of St. Petersburg manufactories, into which the celebration of International Women's Day grew, the February Revolution began.

International Women's Day on March 8 is a memorable date for the UN, and the organization includes 193 states. Commemorative dates announced by the General Assembly are designed to encourage UN members to show increased interest in these events. However, at the moment, not all member states of the United Nations have approved the celebration of Women's Day in their territories on this date.

Below is a list of countries that celebrate International Women's Day. Countries are grouped into groups: in a number of states, the holiday is an official non-working day (day off) for all citizens, somewhere on March 8, only women have a rest, and there are states where they work on March 8.

In which countries is March 8 a public holiday (for everyone):

* In Russia- March 8 is one of the most beloved holidays, when men congratulate all women without exception.

* In Ukraine- International Women's Day continues to be an additional holiday, despite regular proposals to exclude the event from the number of non-working days and replace it, for example, with Shevchenko's Day, which will be celebrated on March 9.
* In Abkhazia.
* in Azerbaijan.
* In Algeria.
* In Angola.
* In Armenia.
* In Afghanistan.
* In Belarus.
* To Burkina Faso.
* in Vietnam.
* In Guinea-Bissau.
* In Georgia.
* In Zambia.
* In Kazakhstan.
* In Cambodia.
* In Kenya.
* In Kyrgyzstan.
* In North Korea.
* In Cuba.
* In Laos.
* In Latvia.
* In Madagascar.
* In Moldova.
* In Mongolia.
* In Nepal.
* In Tajikistan Since 2009, the holiday has been renamed Mother's Day.
* In Turkmenistan.
* In Uganda.
* In Uzbekistan.
* In Eritrea.
* In South Ossetia.

Countries where March 8 is a day off for women only:

There are countries in which only women are released from work on International Women's Day. This rule has been approved:

* In China.
* In Madagascar.

Which countries celebrate March 8, but it's a working day:

In some countries, International Women's Day is widely celebrated, but is a working day. This:

* Austria.
* Bulgaria.
* Bosnia and Herzegovina.
* Germany- in Berlin since 2019, March 8 is a day off, in the whole country it is a working day.
* Denmark.
* Italy.
* Cameroon.
* Romania.
* Croatia.
* Chile.
* Switzerland.

Which countries do NOT celebrate March 8:

* In Brazil - most of the inhabitants of which have not even heard of the "international" holiday on March 8. The main event of late February - early March for Brazilians and Brazilians is not Women's Day at all, but the world's largest Brazilian festival, also called the carnival in Rio de Janeiro, according to the Guinness Book of Records. In honor of the festival, Brazilians rest for several days in a row, from Friday to noon on the Catholic Ash Wednesday, which marks the beginning of Lent (which for Catholics has a movable date and begins 40 days before Catholic Easter).

* In the USA, the holiday is not an official holiday. In 1994, an attempt by activists to get the celebration approved in Congress was unsuccessful.

* In the Czech Republic (Czech Republic) - most of the country's population considers the holiday as a relic of the communist past and the main symbol of the old regime.