To return the ex, you do not need to beg him: it is better to make him ask you to return

Hello friends! In this article, I want to tell you about how to get your ex-husband back without resorting to violence) Ie. your loved one will ask you to return to him. Do you want to know how?

Of course you do! So...

He slammed the door and went on a free voyage, leaving you with nothing? Bitter and hard, but do not think that life ends there.

How to behave in order to return the sweetheart?

Let's talk about the reasons for the divorce, about your desire to return it, sort out the mistakes and consider tips for restoring the relationship.

Each of us gets used to his chosen one.

Now you are free. It seems that there is no need to defend one's innocence, there is no need to collect dirty socks around the house and drag responsibility for two - but the soul is empty as ever.

Or another situation: you were afraid of every quarrel and now you wake up lonely. You howl from longing, go to fortune-tellers, call him and spy on his page on the social network. Even if he often beat you up or, even worse, slowly destroyed your self-esteem.

In the first case, you are kept by the habit of the previous arrangement of life. You remember the old moments, which, if not ideal, then certainly stable. Are you scared to start over from scratch?

In the second option, you should think about whether your feelings are a love addiction? This state can be understood as love, but it is not fully.

In this case, you need to visit a good psychologist to understand yourself.

Children are a separate story. It is difficult to let go of even an unloved person if there is a child.

Should I keep the past?

Indeed, is it necessary to return the husband? Are there significant reasons for this?

Remember the reasons for your disagreements

1. Maybe the roads parted a long time ago, and the gap was the only acceptable option?
2. Or between you now and then aggression broke out?
3. Your option (reason) for divorce

Don't try to answer this question right now. Give yourself time to weigh the pros and cons, so as not to be led by impulses that can be fatal.

To begin with, you must understand that sadness and loneliness are completely normal feelings during loss. Do not give up these states, but also allow yourself to doubt the expediency of reconnecting.

So. Your action plan.

How to get your loved one back after a divorce?

If you have made a final decision, listen to the recommendations below.

• Understand yourself

First, take a calm look at your marriage. Evaluate all the events thoughtfully, without offense and accusations: you need to find the exact reason for the breakup.

To do this, remember what specifically annoyed your husband, try to patch up annoying gaps. So you will learn to bypass painful questions or completely reduce them to nothing.

As a final touch, evaluate how much you are willing to change for the sake of reuniting with a young man. If this requires the abandonment of desires, aspirations and worldview - perhaps he is just a stranger.

• If the initiative is yours

What to do if you are not thrown, but yourself? Try to bring the faithful to the conversation. Just don't try to do it intrusively - it's better to make an appointment on neutral territory, where you can dot the i's.

Moreover, wait at least a week for his resentment to dull. He's probably thinking about how he'll fight you back.

The conversation should be calm and unobtrusive. Remember that pushiness is an unspoken sense of possessiveness that will play a bad joke on you.

Listen to him, do not interrupt and do not try to prove your case. Accept his point of view, then express yours in a benevolent tone. It is possible that you will be able to forgive each other and start over.

• With a mistress

Perhaps this is the most difficult situation for an abandoned wife - if he already has another. First things first, no matter how it hurts, recognize his right to freedom. As well as your own: let's know that you are not going to become an alternate airfield.

The best place to start is with a conversation. Let your ex-husband know that you only want to find out the negative aspects of marriage to the end. I hope you know that blackmail and pleading will only drive you apart.

The new passion cannot be criticized. You should not straightforwardly take the former away from his mistress.

It is best to pretend that you calmly accept this fact, and in general the world has not converged on it like a wedge. At the same time, do not pretend to be her role: hint at a noble, friendly relationship.

Invite him to joint events: walks with children, spending time with relatives, etc. Such a warm and neutral attitude will make him think about the correctness of his act.

But don't forget yourself! A man is not the meaning of your life. In your free time, do a hobby, surround yourself with fans and emphasize in every possible way.

• Lack of feelings

You don't have to wait for him to leave. Even if he does not want you as a woman, this is a wake-up call.

Unfortunately, one thing can be said here: you cannot return feelings by force. Especially if the young man got married and left for another family.

It is necessary to bring the husband to a frank conversation. Having understood each other, disperse without unnecessary complaints and insults.

Sometimes it takes time to understand love. Give it to your lover. And take care of yourself: become the one he once proposed to.

He will ask you to come back

I am sure that this course can significantly help in your business. And, most likely, the former himself will come running to your house.

Conclusion

Human relationships are complex and multifaceted. We forget how dear to each other, and then we think how to return love.

It is not too late to meet your loved one in order to restore relations. Or at least understand the thoughts of those with whom they shared life and feelings, let go without hatred and empty hope.

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Love and take care of each other!

Always with you, Sasha Bogdanova