How to learn to be yourself

• 12 tips for learning to be yourself
  • Tip 4. Create and look for the meaning of life
  • Tip 5. Respect yourself
  • Tip 6. Compare yourself only to yourself
  • Tip 8. Grow
  • Tip 9. Get rid of negativity
  • Tip 10. Remember the benefits of self-irony.
  • Tip 11. Don't confuse "being yourself" with shocking
  • Tip 12. Communicate with yourself

Each of us once met a person with whom we want to be around longer: interesting, radiating powerful positive energy and giving warmth.

One of the secrets of such a person is that he has learned to be himself.

It seems that “being yourself” is the natural state of a person, but for many it takes years to find their “I”. Those who in the end can know themselves and make friends with themselves become truly happy. We will tell you about some settings and actions that will help speed up the process of finding yourself in the wilds of public installations and role masks.

Here are some simple tips on how to learn to be yourself.

Tip 1. Identify the person's strengths and weaknesses

In order to become yourself, you must first "review", find out the basic properties of your character: coolly, without haste, without embarrassment and fear.

Strengths and weaknesses of a person- two sides of the same coin. It does not happen that a person consists of only positive qualities and does not have any "cockroaches". Advantages are not a reason to turn up your nose, and disadvantages should not be discouraged.

A person who knows his true essence can competently manage his own resource and insure where there are gaps.

• Yes, I'm not handsome, but I compensate with charisma.
• I am forgetful, so I write everything down and make “reminders” in my smartphone for every little thing.
• I grab everything superficially, without delving into information, but I can quickly assess the situation in emergency cases.
• I am a slow swinger, so I need to start any business in advance.

It happens that something that for others is a property of a dubious nature can become a virtue. Someone will twist at the temple and say: “He is some kind of eccentric!” But it is non-standard thinking that helps a person to find fresh solutions in work.

In different situations, the same quality can act in different roles. For example, tall girls at school have a complex because of their height, stoop and spoil their posture. At the same time, high growth is necessary for models and basketball players.

Therefore, when conducting an audit, be calm about “shortcomings” - in certain situations they can play into the hands.

Tip 2. Don't be afraid and create a positive mood

Fear is one of the most powerful "demons" devouring from within. We lose so much because fear stops us. We cannot find a good job or open a business because we are afraid of failure. We don’t call an interesting person - what if he “sends”?

If we analyze how much we do or do not do because of our fears, it turns out that they control our lives.

Successful people have always taken risks. They went to conquer the capital with a one-way ticket, invested money, realizing the possibility of losses, made offers, realizing that they might be refused.

To be yourself, you need to stop being afraid. What will people say? What if I'm too weird for them? What if no one accepts me for real?

In order not to succumb to fears, you need to constantly develop in yourself positive mood and try to live in a spirit of optimism. There is a good exercise for getting rid of fear. Today you are nervous and afraid for some reason. Think about whether it will matter five years from now. If these situations happened, remember how much you suffered, and how well everything worked out as a result.

Tip 3: Don't Blame Yourself and Look for Reasons for Low Self-Esteem

Everyone has deeds or character traits that we are not proud of. Someone blames himself for misdeeds committed many years ago, constantly scrolling past events in his head. Guilt is destructive. There is nothing useful in it, it only takes away our mental strength, slows it down, makes us get stuck in the past and boil in negative emotions.

If we analyze causes of low self-esteem, you can see that many of them lie in a sense of guilt brought back from childhood. A child who blames himself for the divorce of his parents or other family troubles grows into an adult who considers himself the cause of all the problems around. He tries to be invisible and perform as few actions as possible: what if something happens again because of him? It's not the best path to success...

The only correct method is to accept your misdeeds and shortcomings, draw conclusions, try to correct what is possible. Help yourself realize that not everything bad that happened is your own fault. For example, victims of violence almost always look for the cause of what happened in themselves. What you can’t fix, you need to let go, forgive yourself and no longer return to this topic. Feeling guilty is like wearing a rock on your back. Why do you need it?

We recognize ourselves in creative activity. We can build our intellect, our body, our character; art objects or technical devices; the fate of people, teaching them what we ourselves know. The good mood of others, a flower garden near the entrance, delicious food for home - this is all creation.

We become ourselves by engaging in the process of creation, from which we experience joy. Such a person's eyes burn, he is surrounded by a halo of happiness.

We often ask ourselves what is the sense of life. One of the possible answers is to realize yourself in work. A person is largely determined by the type of his activity. When he loves what he does, it is immediately noticeable. Your work and its results are an integral part of you.

Self-respect is one of the foundations of personal self-identification. It includes self-acceptance, positive adequate self-esteem and pride in their achievements.

Many of us have come a long way. We've all made mistakes or been in bad situations. But many of them did everything to correct the consequences of their mistakes, and then they also did many good deeds. They are worthy of respect, because they managed to overcome the path of inertia and defeat themselves.

We are humans, weak and imperfect. Despite all our failures, we are worthy of respect if we continue to fight and try to become better. Even the fact that we raise children with love and diligently do our work is already worthy of respect, because there are those who spend their days in a drunken stupor under the fence.

Someone built a three-story house, someone became the mayor of the city. But they have nothing to do with us. Of course, positive examples stimulate development, but, probably, the position of mayor is not yours, because you are an artist at all?

We often look with envy at movie stars or billionaires, wishing ourselves their fate. But we forget that they worked very hard to achieve their position. They may have qualities that we do not have. They may enjoy doing things that we can't stand. And few people know what they had to sacrifice.

Everyone should focus only on themselves. If a person develops in what he is good at, then he goes his own way.

Tip 7: Accept others for who they are.

Oddly enough, this is also one of the steps of finding and accepting oneself. After all, if you do not allow your friends and acquaintances to be themselves, then how can you allow this to yourself? Seeing the diversity of human qualities and destinies, we learn to understand others and become free ourselves.

There is an opinion that a person should be the same throughout life, and many are even proud of this. As if such stability is really worthy of pride ...

But practice shows that if you wish, you can even change your own character. "I'm lazy and grumpy, and nothing can be changed" - these are just excuses.
A person must constantly be in motion, constantly strive up and forward. It's like in water - as soon as you stop moving, gravity pulls you to the bottom. Even in order to stay at the same level, you need to make some effort. And for the development of your personality you need to work tirelessly.

The good news is that development can be made a habit. Having conquered one peak, we think: “Wow, cool! I want more!" If we do not stop, constant efforts to achieve new goals will become necessary for us, we will strive for the emotional rewards received from victories.

To become yourself, you need to create yourself, fill with knowledge, experience, impressions, skills. A person who follows the path of development approaches his harmonious "I" with every step.

Each of us has a number of qualities that bring inconvenience to both the environment and ourselves. All of them are based on one thing - uncontrolled immersion in negative emotions. It can be irritability, anger, suspicion, jealousy, greed and other "sins".

They draw on themselves a huge amount of energy and spoil relationships with loved ones. But the thing is that such qualities are not our basic properties. We catch them somewhere like a cold, and then cherish and cherish them, convincing ourselves that such a character was given by nature.

Sometimes it also happens that we don’t even realize that we have acquired an unpleasant habit of grumbling or discussing acquaintances. These things need to be found and removed. For example, you can pass touchiness test or other character traits that may interfere in life.

Our soul strives for peace, harmony and good mood at any time of the day. To be yourself is to be a person within whom you feel good.

In general, people are very imperfect creatures. They are characterized by inattention, disorganization, laziness, clumsiness, forgetfulness and other qualities that cause uncomfortable situations. In order not to worry, be afraid, complex, nervous and angry with yourself, you need to include a sense of humor as often as possible.

There is such a technique - to stop being afraid of a certain person or event, it is enough to present them in a comic light. For example, going “on the carpet” to the boss, imagine him in a dress with rhinestones and a hat with feathers on his head. Maybe when he sees a smiling face, he will generally forget that he wanted to scold you.

You also need to take it easy on yourself. This is what the benefits of self-irony- laughing at our shortcomings, we seem to deprive them of power over ourselves. There is such a great saying: "Slight stupidity makes a person practically invulnerable." In a difficult situation, it is best to defuse the atmosphere with a joke or a comical stunt.

Being yourself means not being like everyone else. Otherwise, it will not work, because we are so different. Today it is becoming something of a mainstream: standing out from the crowd is so cool!

There are many characters who shock the public out of a desire to get more attention. They can behave strangely or dress brightly, arrange outrageous antics. "I'm so special and unique, look at me!" - he shouts with all his behavior. In fact, it turns out that behind all this masquerade there is no inner concept, worldview, life path. Just bright clothes, impudence and a desire to be seen.

But it's far from being yourself. After all, a real person can not stand out from the crowd, be modest and taciturn, but at the same time write beautiful music.

Sometimes we run so fast through life, trying to achieve other people's goals and realize dreams that are not our own, that we don't even know - what are we, the real ones? But it is not difficult at all: to sit under the night sky and feel what is happening in the soul. What do we really want? Is it good in the life situation in which we are? Is it comfortable to be alone? What gnaws and does not give rest?

There are so many questions we need to ask ourselves... Check with our inner course, our sense of the path. Look for something that makes you feel comfortable - good friends, an interesting job, a loved one nearby.

Tip 13: Take a break and be silly sometimes

Yes, to hell with it! After all, each of us is not only a workaholic and a decent family man, but also an adventure lover or a fan of playing badminton. No need to try to be perfect - you need to allow yourself little pranks, feed your inner child with ice cream, cartoons and tomfoolery with a dog.

Stupidity is not alcohol or other destructive practices. But if you want to drop everything for a while and jump in the puddles under the rain - why not? This is also you.

Being yourself is a luxury that few people can afford. Most people are bound by their beliefs, fears and conventions. Only by getting rid of this shell, you will become yourself - if not ideal, but a free and happy person.

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