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The term "highly sensitive personality" was first proposed by the American psychologist Elaine Aron. This is not a disease, not a whim, but a feature of the nervous system. A life of high sensitivity can bring suffering if dealt with as an irreparable defect. But if you properly organize your space, time and communication, you will be efficient and happy.
Ordinary school day. I am eight or nine years old. I enter the school building, and the rumble of children's voices, the running of the crowd, the sharp sound of the bell immediately fall on me. There seems to be so much that I can't take it anymore. There is silence during the lesson, but as soon as the class runs out for a break, I stand at the wall and think only about one thing: “When will this end?”
Since childhood, I was reproached for being vulnerable, they called me “the princess and the pea”. At some point, I even believed that something was wrong with me. This did not stop me from becoming a practicing psychologist. Sensitivity has become my main tool and calling card. But if in the profession I was like a fish in water, then in life the ability to take everything to heart continued to cause inconvenience and create problems.
Until, by chance, I came across Elaine Aron's book The Hypersensitive Person. How to Succeed in a Mad World,” I didn’t learn that hypersensitivity is not a disease at all, but a feature of the nervous system.
The term "highly sensitive personality" was first proposed by the American psychologist Elaine Aron. She lists her main features as:
- depth of information processing- the tendency to observe and reflect before acting;
- easy-to-reach overexcitation- fast emerging fatigue from an excess of information;
- emphasis emotional reactions and expressed empathy, which help to notice features and learn;
- susceptibility to all the nuances of the environment.
New life with high sensitivity
The most important thing is to recognize and accept your peculiarity, and not fight it. This is not easy - after all, the world around us was created for people with ordinary sensitivity. In addition, you probably have accumulated a lot of negative labels about yourself.
There is a fine line here that Elaine Aron is talking about. On the one hand, you can continue to try to remake yourself under the "normal" world, fight, try to build up a protective shell. But won't it be like a fragile butterfly suddenly decides to become a thick-skinned boa constrictor?
On the other hand, there is a risk of going into arrogance: to raise your sensitivity to something extraordinary, demanding a special attitude towards yourself.
The most reasonable option is to simply admit that you were born that way. Sensitivity - not your merit, but not your disadvantage. This is the same as the shape of the nose, the color of the eyes, or the size of the feet. And when compared with the latter, then your task is to find the right “shoes”, instead of walking barefoot down the street or not leaving the house at all.
How to "reorganize" your life
1) Identify your "irritants" - what tires you the most.
For me, these are loud sounds and bright video images, a large crowd of people. And how are you? Remember an ordinary day: what tires you the most, takes strength, unsettles you? Make your personal list.
2) Think about what you can exclude from this and how.
Experts note that many highly sensitive people prefer to live alone or find a similar person as a partner. But what if you have a different situation? There are five of us in the family: me, my husband, two teenage children and a one-year-old daughter. Can you imagine how many stimuli and irritants I receive daily? If it happens that everyone is at home all day, then for me it is already a “large crowd of people”. And I need to be very careful to avoid overwork. We have to agree that the TV does not work 24 hours a day, and the children play the computer with headphones. If necessary, I use earplugs just to keep the noise down. And, of course, I have my own personal time when I can be at home completely alone, or at least retire with tea, a blanket and an interesting film (book) in my room.
3) Adapt the profession to your sensibility.
There was a time when I worked at a school, a university. I still remember with horror the training noise and the huge number of people; the road is two hours from one end of Moscow to the other with three transfers, minibuses and other "pleasures". I didn't have enough for a long time. Now I am conducting a psychological practice and I realized that this is an ideal option for me. I make my own schedule in order to fully devote time to both family and work. I have an office where I can retire and prepare for the session. How does your profession fit in with sensibility? What can be changed in it to make work more comfortable?
4) Track what factors affect fatigue and prevent them.
For example, if I eat lunch later than usual, I get easily irritated and lash out at others. Therefore, I began to take care in advance to take meals on time and always keep a small snack on hand. I also cut back on coffee and switched to delicious herbal teas. Psychologist and author of the book Close to the Heart. How to live if you are too sensitive person ”Ilse Sand taught her guests that she needs pauses during communication, in addition, she stipulates the time of their departure in advance. What factors affect your sensitivity? What do you think you can add or change?
5) Conduct an audit of what surrounds you.
Highly sensitive people respond to more stimuli, which leads to overwork. Marie Kondo's cleaning principles helped me organize a new lifestyle. When you get rid of what causes tension, and surround yourself with things, activities, people that bring joy, life is filled with new meaning and inspiration. Review things and keep only those that bring joy. You will notice that your home will begin to help you regain strength and energy.
6) Be kind and considerate to yourself.
For me, this is the most important purchase. Before, I never got tired of comparing myself with others, I scolded myself for being slow in making decisions. Now I have learned to use my features to my advantage. I remember how disappointed and tired I often left large shopping centers. Now I shop online. I calmly choose clothes, shoes, order them at home and, if necessary, I can always exchange or return money.
Write down the qualities that you do not like about yourself and that are related to your sensitivity. How can you “replay” them in your usual life in order to achieve what you want more easily and comfortably? For example, if you are more active and full of energy in the morning, do not plan attention-related activities for the evening. If you find it difficult to make decisions quickly, feel free to take a break and choose the conditions that are convenient for you.
7) Find ways to self-heal.
Knowing your own characteristics, it is important to choose ways that will help you cope with accumulated fatigue and release tension. It is better to take care of this in advance. And it is better if it will be rituals. For me, this is the morning time, when I can calmly drink aromatic tea and slowly meet the morning. Playlists tailored to your mood. Body practices. Mandatory evening shower, which "resets" everything that happened during the day. What rituals can you include in your day?
8) Find out when a "burnout" occurs.
No matter how hard you try to adapt sensitivity to the world around you, there are situations that, together with overwork, cause a strong emotional reaction (tears, outbursts of irritation). This happens when the time for self-care is lost and the outside world attacks with its stimuli. For example, I agree to go to the mall with my husband even though I don't feel very well physically. Already there I understand that I want to go home, people, music, noise annoy me. But it's too late... We're arguing. From overwork, I say things that I later regret. If earlier I “fell” into a feeling of guilt and harmed myself even more, now I accept my condition, focus on breathing, and then help myself with my own ways of self-healing.
In what situations can you be easily thrown off balance? Do you often drown out your needs in order to adjust to your family, partner? What can be done to avoid this waste of energy?
As soon as I began to organize my life in a new way, the question arose: “What do I need this for? Why feel everything so acutely? The answer that came first: "In order to accept yourself and start taking care of yourself." And, of course, without my sensitivity, I would never have become a psychotherapist. It is interesting that clients often choose me for sensitivity.
A life of high sensitivity can bring suffering if dealt with as an irreparable defect. Stop... Take a break and get to know your sensitivity like a small child. What does he need in this big scary world? What makes you feel happy? What can you do for him right now? Do not leave him, and he will thank you with new discoveries and opportunities.
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Last week, at my urgent request, my mother brought back one of my old books (you know, when you move from place to place, every now and then you strive to shove "everything you don't need" into your parents' apartment - they already have it rubber!), which I bought it for ten rubles when I worked in a bookstore. It was about five years ago and few people needed my book, and now, just imagine, you can’t buy it on Ozon for less than 200 rubles!
So what am I on about? About Georgina Lockwood and her repeatedly reprinted "How to Organize Your Life". I like to re-read all sorts of books on self-organization with the advent of autumn. Hee hee...
"People like Martha Stewart and the pages of glossy magazines assure us of the 'normality' of a lifestyle that most of us are completely unacceptable for. Don't get me wrong. I'm biased against just a few magazines. TV. But do I believe that this lady really edits her own magazine, hosts a weekly show, runs several houses, irons her linen with her own hands, shovels manure in a perfectly manicured garden and cooks the most complicated dishes on the go? I don’t believe it!
Then I remembered my girlfriend, who married an American and drove off to Washington to clean a three-story house, feed her husband with all sorts of incredible things, look after the garden and garden, iron, sew and all that!))))) I even make fun of her, that after her arrival in the States, the quotes of Russian wives went up sharply!))))
"Journalists came to my house to interview, expecting to see an old mansion stuffed to the top with stylish souvenirs. Instead, they ended up in a modern house without any special architectural frills, but comfortable and cozy, in a house in which it is very easy to keep clean. Of course, I have some knick-knacks that I keep as the apple of my eye and keep in plain sight.But I disappear at work all day, I have family and friends, hobbies that I spend my leisure time on.I decided for myself a long time ago that all this is more important to me than the "exemplary" house from the cover of a glossy magazine.I do not want to be a slave to my own house and, to tell the truth, I very much doubt that anyone will ever pay me to show my dwelling on TV "
At this point, all questions as to why I once every hundred years wash my tiny stove and wipe the mirrors have disappeared by themselves. Now you understand why I fell in love with this book?))))))
"... commercials show you sparkling clean houses, and you get the impression that without such a house you will not be able to be good parents and simply acceptable people in society. In addition to an ideal home, you should also have white teeth, soft and silky hair - and no dandruff! - stain-free clothes and dry underarms. Do not let yourself be lured into these traps! Take advertising adequately, as an illusion - nothing more! All you need is a cozy, comfortable, clean and beautiful home in which you will be pleased to live and achieve your goals"
Then Georgina suggests taking several sheets of paper and devoting each one to one area of your life:
People
Work
Nutrition
Cloth
Finance
Health
Leisure
Under each heading, write what you would like to change in this area (what would you do if you had more time, money or opportunities). This way you will get a complete picture of what you really need. It is necessary to work out all eight categories, and then on each sheet circle one, the most important desire.
"Desires turn into clearly defined goals, goals into actions, and all this somehow magically transforms into a RESULT"
Then you need to select and circle two more important points from each area. You will already have three important desires on each piece of paper (which is why you need to write down as many desires as possible from the very beginning - at least six for each area of your life). When you have three goals from each list, you need to write them down in an organizer or hang them on the wall so that your goals are constantly in front of your eyes.
"If you do not have an organizer, or at least a place where all important information is stored centrally, you will greatly complicate the process of self-organization. Buy an organizer and keep it where it will be most convenient for you to constantly refer to it"
In general, everything is quite simple. You formulate goals, make a plan, break the plan into small tasks, and then write them down in an organizer and start slowly but surely doing everything. For successes and victories, Georgina advises herself to be encouraged. To do this, you need to make a list of what you like the most. When you achieve one of your goals, simply "reward" yourself with something from this list (small gifts for small accomplishments, big gifts for big ones).
"Don't set the bar too high - it won't help you succeed"
"How consciously did you make your last purchase? Why did you decide to buy this particular thing? Did you see it on TV or in a magazine? Or maybe you noticed from a friend and decided that you should definitely get this thing too? .. Go around your house, look at things around you, and ask yourself where each particular item came from. If this is your purchase, try to remember how and why it was made. How often do you use it? What purpose does it really serve? What would happen if it lost or stolen?
With the light hand of Georgina, half of the contents of this house can be taken to the trash!))))))
"Useless things tend to multiply. The more you have, the more you need... Useless things crowd out useful things. The more useless, outdated and broken things you have, the harder it is to find a place for items that you really often use.. Useless things usurp all free space.The more empty horizontal surfaces and empty cabinets in the house, the more items appear that need to be placed somewhere ... The easier it is for you to put away things, the more likely you are to actually remove them. .. Useless things greatly affect your state of mind, cluttered rooms are oppressive, if you are not having the most successful period and you are already in the grip of depressive moods, the sight of useless junk that has not been functioning for a long time will aggravate your condition... On you there will be pressure to put it in order and the impossibility of doing it ... All things have value only when they are used. things are nothing more than rubbish, rubbish... Things will never make you happy. Both money and things are only improvised means with which you build your life and create your happiness. Try not to bring new things into the house for a whole week. Put a moratorium on shopping, make do with what you already have... The more things you have to keep track of, the less time you have for everything else..."
The message is simple: by controlling your things and time, you begin to control your entire life.
In my opinion, this is also a great way to train willpower - to do what you really need, but do not want to at all.
"... the fact that something is 150 years old does not mean that this "antiquity" is worth keeping at home! After all, you do not live in a museum ... If you are not a professional antique dealer, you do not need to force house, even if it is very valuable and old junk ... "Excellent" qualities of things appear only when these things are used. Things lying dead weight, even if they are in thrice perfect condition, were and remain useless trash. Better give them to someone , who will find a use for them, or at worst sell for nothing. Free up space for something that will really "excellent" serve you daily "
Excellent recommendation! Use or give away! I remember something from my semi-Soviet past, when the worst sin was to be known as a "greedy beef." We felt it was our duty to share everything we had (even if we didn't feel like it at all).
"Sales are cunning tricks to lure you into the store... Going to a sale makes sense only if you are going to buy everyday items or have planned some kind of purchase for a long time, chose a model and brand, asked the price and suddenly found out that the price of this particular item is reduced for one reason or another. Otherwise, you will not receive any benefit from visiting sales"
“If you feel low on energy, everything you do will seem like a chore. Are you unwell, do not get enough sleep, maybe spend too much time in nightclubs or are you experiencing depression? If any of this is related to you, then, before you start serious work on yourself, be sure to rest and recover, restore lost strength"
"Break the work into pieces," bytes ". Finish one piece, dust one room, set a timer, have a cup of tea and spend another 10 minutes on the next" bytes "... Do some, even a very small part work every day"
This is not all, of course, next time I will tell you about all sorts of "household tricks" (how to put things in order in papers and wardrobe, how to organize your workplace, how to go shopping, and all that).
Good afternoon, dear readers! Each of us thinks about how to be happy. On a subconscious level, we strive to achieve harmony in life. It turns out it's not difficult at all. In this post, we decided to publish the advice of the sages about life, which will help streamline the chaos of thoughts, ideas and emotions on this topic in your head.
Where to get the truth?
Few people know how to properly organize their lives in order to become happy and harmonious individuals. Those who know these secrets go step by step to the goal that they clearly imagine in detail. And, as a rule, they manage to build their life exactly the way they dream of.
The majority of the population needs the advice and tips of the ancient sages. Mostly they are representatives of oriental culture. As a rule, their formulations in a slightly modified form are passed on by mankind from generation to generation. And they remain more than relevant today.
- Accept yourself the way you are. You are inimitable and unique. Love yourself with all the flaws and virtues.
- Train your body and spirit. During regular sports activities, we train not only muscles. As proven by scientists, sports training makes the brain more active, and thoughts more clear.
- Speak only when necessary. Excessive talkativeness never did anyone any good. On the contrary, people in their desire to appear sociable and friendly, as a rule, give out a lot of personal, useless information, thereby often putting themselves in an uncomfortable position. And often after that they have to regret what was said. But remember that time does not come back. Therefore, it will become a good habit to speak when we are asked about something or there is an urgent need for it. In all other situations, it is better to remain silent.
- Give up bad habits. As soon as you do this, you will immediately notice how the quality of life has improved. In addition to health and saving money, you will look independent in the eyes of other people. After all, any bad habit is an addiction. And addiction is a weakness. Take this step and you will grow at least in your own eyes.
- . A good complexion and strong immunity, we provide ourselves with a good sleep. And no matter how many things have piled up, you need to sleep enough. Even if you do not get enough sleep one night, the next you need to catch up on missed hours.
- Come to terms with the injustice of life. We are all born different in hair color, weight, height, social status. But it does not matter, because everyone has a chance to succeed. It is important to understand what you are doing and know exactly the purpose of these actions.
- You won't change direction along the way, you need to stop for that. Don't be afraid to stop. Perhaps this is a chance to direct your movement for the better.
- Try not to borrow. Remember, first you need to sow, and only then harvest. It's the same with shopping - first earn money, and then spend it. After all, a loan is not only moral feelings and obligations on your part, it often causes inconvenience for the person who lends you money. Recommended with tips from billionaires.
- Deliberately fill your life with bright and joyful moments. Remember that if you don't, it will fill up on its own, and usually with something else.
- Each of us at some point pays for everything. And most of all, inaction costs us the most. Just imagine how much time you have already lost because of your indecision. And it was better to try and fail than to spend half your life thinking and calculating risks. Don't forget that all is not lost yet, and start acting right now!
- Never complain. We attract into our lives those events and people that we need to learn certain lessons. But if we run away from them, then the fee is likely to increase several times.
- Formulate your desires and plans clearly and clearly, try to present the future result in detail. And if you yourself do not know what you want, or constantly change your desires and intentions, the result of this will be chaos in life.
- Every day take at least a small step in the intended direction. Only in this way can any result be achieved. And if you think and dream every day, without doing anything, most likely you will not get anything.
- Change despite the stereotypes. After all, they are the main obstacles to change. Don't wait for the right moment, start now.
- Gain and loss are, in fact, absolutely one phenomenon, contemplated from different angles. When we acquire something, we lose the ability to choose. And in case of loss, on the contrary, we gain it. Don't be afraid of losses.
- Resolve issues promptly. After all, when you leave it for later, they multiply and accumulate like a snowball, gradually knocking a person out of a rut.
- Don't try to please everyone. It's impossible. Let the golden rule for you in any act be alignment with your own conscience.
- The environment is neutral. It is our thoughts that make it good or bad. Try to find something positive in every event.
- Don't get angry and don't take revenge. Hatred is too heavy a feeling that makes our thoughts gloomy. Let go and forgive. The best punishment for the offender will be the contemplation of your success. Work on yourself and achieve your goals.
- We come into the world from nowhere and we go there. You must try to live life as your conscience tells you. Having solved all the tasks set before us, we can move to a new level.
Conclusion
There is a lot of truth and justice in Chinese proverbs and sayings of philosophers of other nations. If we learn to follow them at least a little, we will soon notice that our life becomes meaningful, correct, harmonious.
How much to do in a lifetime. Get an education, start a family, have children, fulfill yourself in some area, preferably in your favorite. And I also want to see the world, look younger, dress modern, spend time with friends somehow not banal, acquire new ones.
For some, it all comes out easily and naturally, but for someone it doesn’t work out at all.
And here's an example for you. I once had a woman at my appointment. Suppose her name is Vera, she is 38, not married, no children, she worked, at that time, as a sales manager. In general, she is not bad-looking and in general, her head is in place, but her life is not arranged. By the way, it was with this request that she came to me. She told me that everything somehow went awry from childhood. I didn’t stay in any circles and sections since childhood, I always worked not in my specialty, men always came across either married or drinking. In general, this is how it all went on. And at the consultation, through tears, she complained about “the feeling that I do not have time to live! I should have created a family before, and now I should have a career, or a career should have been automatic, and I would have taken care of my family. No, I didn't! Haven't had time yet!"
How often does it happen that at first you are late for the bus, then for a meeting, and then you look back, and already 30 and life is not properly arranged, everything is somehow with the flow.
In order to keep up with everything, develop in many areas of life and be successful in general, you need to have the skill of self-organization. This is one of the key skills of a person, involving the volitional qualities of a person.
What happened in Vera's life, of course, cannot be explained by the lack of organization alone. Low self-esteem, lack of self-love, self-confidence and a not very successful parental scenario also influenced. But if the skill of self-discipline had been developed, much in Vera's life would have been different for the better.
And now an example from my personal experience, which is associated with a not very developed skill of self-organization and a sense of time, as it turned out).
I recently finished working on a big project with a team of active and interesting guys. The project involved multitasking, speed, adjustments... In other words, I didn't always manage to do everything, the tasks strove to layer on each other, and sometimes the process got out of control. As a result, it happened that the day ended with a touch of dissatisfaction. It would seem that the results were not bad, but it felt like they were disproportionate to the effort expended. Like Pareto in the worst case)). I must say that I got stressed out in this project, despite the fact that I still got excellent results!)
After a couple of days of rest, I clearly formulated my growth zone for the near future!) This is the pumping of my self-organization! And not just so that the execution is on time, but so that the soul does not stress, but rejoices and enjoys, both in the process and at the end, seeing the results obtained !!
I'm sure I'm not the only one who's not doing well with organizing himself. Therefore, I decided to invite to take part in the process of personal growth (together more fun and more efficiently) those who wish to form a skill of self-organization, namely: to start doing what they have planned for a day, a month or a year, in all areas of your life, whether it is household chores, career, or family-related (after all, if you have conceived this, then it is important for you); stop being late for meetings and at the same time stop fussing, worrying about “I’m not fixable” and making excuses for “I’m late again, sorry ...”; stop postponing and shifting important tasks and events; finally start enjoying the process of work, and not do it automatically and be in a hustle and bustle that “I don’t have time ...), see life from other sides, try something new (if there is free time and no worries), stop to feel small, unable to change anything for yourself, but to take and learn how to make your days the way you want, and then your life!)
Of course, it's different for everyone. Someone has a little “pump up”, and someone has pumping at 100%. And that's okay! The main thing is to understand what will change from this in life. My analysis showed that self-organization is essentially self-promotion! For me, this is freedom and inspiration! Perhaps someone will say, “what kind of freedom is this, when everything is minute, what inspiration, when disheveled creativity is replaced by clean-shaven observance ..” From the last experience, I began to clearly understand that creativity can be different, and freedom - in peace of mind when you know exactly what will happen and you will be in time for what you have planned and want to do!!)
By the way, having tested several new exercises on myself, it became even more clear to me how everything works: the boundaries of time are felt completely differently than as always ...)) I was glad!)
Girls who are interested and who are ready to join the process of improving their lives, details in my diary.
The simple and uncomfortable truth is that we are probably busier than ever. While little scientific evidence supports this fact, anecdotal evidence abounds.
“You can see it all around you,” says Jane Jasper, New York-based productivity expert and author of Take Back Your Time. “People are talking too fast. We are always in a hurry. We start doing something and don’t finish it, and we are constantly tormented by the thought that we forgot to do something, but we can’t remember what it was. Busy people with all these time- and effort-saving gadgets, from robotic vacuum cleaners to microwaves to computers, seem so busy and devoid of common sense. But the advantages that technology gives us are also disadvantages.
“Since we have increased the number of devices that save our time and products that make our lives easier, we have found ways to fill our time,” says Tracey Lyn Moland, time management consultant. Chronic lack of time causes stress.
But all the time management experts we've talked to agree that stress can be reduced. Think of it as adding an extra hour to your daily schedule with a time management technique.
Something as simple as "knowing where your keys or library book and your child's homework is in the morning" can help reduce stress, Moland says. She has a range of tips for successful time management.
Make a diary of time
Take a week and write down everything you do during each day. If you watch TV 25 hours a week, write it down.
“For most people, this is a painful experience,” says Jana Jasper. “You have to include everything – the time you spend in the gym, the time you drive, the weekly meetings, everything. You may become frustrated when you see how much unstructured time you allow yourself. But it's hard to make smart decisions about the efficient use of your time if you don't know what you're doing with your time right now."
Learn to say "no"
Turn off your cell phone and pager. If someone asks you to do something you absolutely don't have time for, say "no" politely but clearly. And don't let yourself feel guilty.
"One of the reasons we feel so busy is that we're not good at setting personal limits on what we shouldn't be doing," says Jana Kemp, founder and president of Meeting & Management Essentials, a time management consultancy in the Boys. , Idaho.
To give up something, you need to focus on your goals, Kemp explains. Your time diary can help in this regard. When you have important but unplanned things to do, only do things that really matter, like family, friends, or health. When you know exactly what you have time for, it will be easier for you to let go of things that don't line up with your priorities.
Make a to-do list with time
"Create a to-do list and note how much time you'll spend on each task," says Moland. Lists always help, but when you also write down how long each item will take, it will help you prioritize your tasks. This way you will naturally focus on what you can do right now.
Take a computer as your assistant
Technology helped you get into temporary commitments, now let them help you get out of them. Try these many personal scheduling programs that allow you to use your calendar, to-do list, phone book and address book on your computer.
“Today, a computer is no longer enough to achieve full efficiency,” says Jasper. “The goal is to use technology to get rid of paper in your life. It's just extremely important."
According to experts, organization is often based on the transience of life. The more junk you have in your life—phone numbers on pieces of paper, business cards in your laptop, a desk littered with calendars and lists—the more likely you are to spend your life organizing all that junk.
Multitasking
Is there a more widely used expression in our modern world? We all combine several tasks into one. But sometimes this kind of multitasking is dangerous. Talking on the phone while driving dramatically increases your chances of getting into an accident. However, many activities can be effectively and safely combined. Listen to books on cassettes while you drive to work. When you watch TV, pay your bills.
“Women are better at combining multiple activities than men,” Moland says. “Even if both partners work full-time, a woman is usually able to think about her children's schedule, home and food. Men are better at focusing on one activity at a time—and women sometimes have to learn that.”
Don't be a perfectionist
There is nothing wrong with being ordinary. Perfectionism, known as paying excessive attention to every detail, important and not, is considered a type of procrastination.
“Set rational goals for yourself,” Jasper says. “It's good to strive to use your full potential. It's not efficient to strive to be the best."
Setting unattainable goals only adds stress to your life, Kemp explains.
Reward yourself
Lastly, reward every achievement you make, no matter how small.
“Use your time diary to help you decide how best to organize your time,” Jasper says. “As you make progress in prioritizing and learning to say no, allow yourself to enjoy what you are doing. You don't have to give yourself a big gift, you can just spend some time alone or get a massage. It is important to recognize your success and enjoy it.”