Why children should choose their own profession and how to help them with this. Why do children's dreams about future professions differ in different countries? What do I want to be for a girl

Who did children want to become in the recent past of Russia

What parents do not dream that their child will take place in the future adult life, get a good profession, earn decent money, in general, so that everything goes well for him. So, about the profession ... If the ideas of the older generation about the future profession of children are often radically opposed to the opinion of their high school students, then what can we say about who the children want to become at such a young age, when it seems to be too early to talk about vocation .

However, to determine the child's ability, you can take a small test that will show in which direction to move!

Nevertheless, even younger students have their own opinion (though often changed) about what they want to become in the future. Sometimes children want to become teachers, doctors, engineers, that is, they dream of the most familiar and prosaic professions. But much more often their dreams are about unusual and heroic professions. But, it was before, and specifically in Russia, when it was still the Soviet Union. During the great "stagnation" girls dreamed of becoming teachers, doctors, boys - engineers, military men, geologists, often chose more heroic professions, a pilot or an astronaut.

The country is changing, dreams are changing

Everything changed a lot when our country unexpectedly emerged from many years of Brezhnev's "stagnation", trampled a little on Gorbachev's "acceleration" and rapidly moved towards the rainbow-colored capitalist distances. Children began to dream about who they want to become, in accordance with the prestige and attractiveness of those professions that at that time seemed the most interesting, promising and profitable. In the nineties, in Russia, boys wanted to be bankers, businessmen, lawyers, sometimes racketeers, and girls wanted to be models, movie stars, and economists.

Let me give you a specific example, by the way, from the life of my own family. My daughter was small during the stagnation, and her "blue dream" was to become an animal tamer in the circus. She even trained our little kitten and she was good at it. But my husband and I, full of pragmatism, explained to her in great detail that this is absolutely impossible, that it is very difficult to enter a circus school, that, basically, children of circus artists become circus artists, etc. etc. What foolish parents!


Our little daughter cried bitterly because we took away her childhood dream. When the daughter would have grown up, she herself would have forgotten about the circus, and how much she wanted to become a tamer. So, by the way, it happened. The son was a junior high school student in the nineties, then the bulk of people lived financially unstable (delayed wages, skyrocketing prices) and when we asked him what he wants to become, he answered: “I will work for those who have a big salary.”

My conclusion is not only from my own experience, but also from numerous statistical observations on the topic “What children want to become”, such is the preferences of children about their future profession, this is a reflection of real life and the situation in the country in that period of time in which they are small. Most often, becoming older, children change their minds about their future profession, although not always.

Who do modern Russian children want to become?

At present, the ideas of Russian children about what they want to become have changed dramatically compared to the years of stagnation, but they also differ significantly from the preferences of children about desired professions during the “dashing nineties”.

Conducted in 2013, a sociological survey among a large group of children from 9 to 13 years old from different schools determined what children want to be when they grow up.

• In the first place among the boys was the occupation of their own business, among the girls - to become a "star".
• Then, the professions of “star”, programmer, athlete (everyone knows that big-time sports are now well paid) were the most in demand for boys, and for girls - a designer, business woman, photographer.
• The last places in this survey for both boys and girls are occupied by the professions of a doctor, scientist and astronaut.
• In general, no one dreams of the profession of a teacher.
• A small percentage of children said that, in general, they do not want to work.

And here are the specific statements of children about what they want to be when they grow up:

I want to become a star. They earn a lot, dress beautifully and everyone loves them.
Alina, 10 years old, survey conducted in 2011
- When I grow up, I will become a banker, they always have a lot of money, and the work is not difficult, sit and count money or look at all sorts of documents.
Oleg, 12 years old, 2014 poll
When I grow up, I don’t want to work as anyone, because I don’t like to work. But I still have to, so I will work where they pay more.
Andrey, 13 years old, survey in 2014.

These are our modern Russian children, pragmatic and not romantic. Perhaps, polls and statistical observations do not give a complete picture of what our children want to become, but the tendency to live well and earn a lot is clearly visible.

So, about our children, everything is more or less clear. But what about in other countries, what do their foreign peers dream about?

What do children want to become in countries with developed capitalism

In many countries where life is stable, where there were no Russian ups and downs, and the social and political system and ideology have not changed for decades, the views of children about what they want to become are somewhat different from the views of our children.

What kind of work do children dream of in successful America

Here are the results of a survey conducted in America in November 2015:

• Athlete's profession comes first
• The next three places are occupied by the professions of doctor, teacher and veterinarian
• Next in descending order are the professions of fireman, scientist and astronaut.
• And the last places in this survey are occupied by the professions of an engineer and a policeman.

And what, small US citizens are more romantic, that they put the professions of a teacher, doctor, veterinarian almost in the first place? It is unlikely that in America, where adults place success and good incomes at the head of the main American values, children cannot have such idealistic views on what they want to become when they grow up.


Most likely, the fact that these professions in the United States enjoy well-deserved respect and are well paid attracts little Americans. But in some respects, the views of American and Russian schoolchildren on their future studies converge, and for both of them, the professions of a scientist and astronaut are not particularly successful. Maybe because the work of an astronaut (astronaut) is dangerous, and for the profession of a scientist you need to have talent, or at least a vocation.

Practical views of German children

And what do European kids want to become, and specifically, German ones? In November 2013, a survey was conducted in Germany among 500 children from 5 to 9 years old.

• In the first place for little Germans is the work of a veterinarian,
• on the second - a football player and a policeman,
• then come the pilot, race car driver, respectively,
• at the last - a fireman and a nurse.

As you can see, the dreams of German children about what they want to become in the future are quite specific and pragmatic. They do not dream of becoming "stars" and models, and doing business does not attract them either.

What do children want to be in the Land of the Rising Sun?

Let's see what children on the other side of the Earth want to become, for example, in Japan. The research was conducted among preschool children and primary school children up to the 5th grade.

The desires of Japanese children differ significantly from their Russian, American and European peers.

Although the little Japanese, like the Americans, put the profession of a football player and baseball player in the first place,

but in second place is the work of the cook and confectioner,

and in the middle of the list are a doctor and a scientist.

Japanese children even dream of getting working professions - a machinist, a driver, a carpenter. True, these works are in the penultimate places, but still they are.

Among the preferences of Japanese children about what they want to become, there is also a fantastic profession - an anime hero.

But the Japanese girls, as if they came out of Russia in the sixties and seventies. In the first places among little Japanese women are the professions of a confectioner, a kindergarten teacher, a doctor, a teacher.

In the middle of the list are a trainer, a nurse, a pianist and a flower girl. And only a small percentage of girls (the last place in the list of desired professions) want to work in the field of beauty and show business. The complete opposite of Russian peers.

Who do the little inhabitants of the Earth want to become and, most importantly, why

On what basis do children choose future professions? And why are the dreams of children about what they want to become in the future, in different countries, also different? In my opinion, there is nothing complicated in this matter, not Newton's binomial.

The views, judgments and opinions of our children, and not only on the issue of the future profession, are only a reflection of our adult life. It may be correct, sometimes distorted, but it is a reflection of adult life and the opinions of the adults themselves of the country where the children live. The desires of children about what they want to become are influenced by the conversations of adults, TV, the Internet (these legislators of any concepts), their own observations.


Of course, they do not know all the specific features and complexities of the professions they choose, but judge by external signs of the attractiveness and success of a particular job, but this is not the main thing. After all, adults, even having learned some profession, also do not fully understand until they work, what exactly their future occupation actually represents.

The main thing is that children, our future and the future of our planet, want to become someone, want to do what they love, and not just live thoughtlessly and enjoy life like a plant. And it does not matter that often they become not what they wanted to be in childhood, and their childhood dreams undergo significant changes later, the main thing is that their adult life should not be overshadowed by an unsuccessfully chosen occupation.

What did we dream of being when we were little? Boys - astronauts, builders, doctors. And girls - ballerinas, teachers, actresses. Has much changed since then? What do our children want to be now?

On the eve of Cosmonautics Day, the editors of Tlum.Ru studied the forum of the u-mama.ru portal and found out what professions modern kids choose for themselves.

BOYS:

"Grisha wants to be an artist-builder-cosmonaut and someone else, I forgot."

“My son is 7 years old, yesterday we only talked about this topic. He wants to be an investigator - to catch criminals, to unravel complex mysteries.

“Mine wants to be a dinosaur and a spiderman. and also a zoo worker - the current Dinozoo.

“Romka says that he will make robots (he has robot mania), he says that he will invent a robot for me that will help me, and he will definitely invent a car that will fly and never break down.”

"4 years. For a year now he wants to become a doctor and only a doctor (nobody canceled genetics)

What do you want to be when you grow up?

Who will you treat? Children, animals?

You, mom!

The curtain…".

"Motor racer. And before that, he was going to become “the head of all builders”)))”.

“We, too, have been wanting to be a “designer who invents cars” for a year now. Previously, I wanted to be a taxi driver.”

"Truck driver (my 3.11)."

“He wants to be a driver, but I set him up for a“ big boss ”to drive“ the most expensive car ””.

"My 10 year old son wants to be a paleontologist%0 which is where the dinosaur craze comes in!"

“The son (almost 6) says that he will be a doctor and a composer, like Alexander Rosenbaum, there are clear abilities for music, well, we have a beloved uncle as a doctor, so everything is logical.”

GIRLS:

“Mine is 7 years old. For the last year she wants to be a designer and translator. In principle, she has an interest in languages, quickly remembers, always diligently does dz in English. At the same time, she loves all kinds of embellishments, rearranging, inventing makeup. The computer plays very rarely, but it's always some kind of game or to create an image or interior.

“The coach of FC is from the last. And there were so many things: a model, a princess, a car designer, I don’t remember everything. ”

"Automotive Designer"

“And so, in life - of course, a veterinarian. Or an ethologist. We dream of going to the reserve and observing the life of tigers in nature.”

“My daughter at the age of 7 wanted to be a pathologist, then a choir conductor. Somewhere in the class of the 5th lawyer, now he hesitates between a teacher of elementary grades and a doctor, although training builds with the medical profession.

“From the age of 5 (now 9) she dreams of working in a dolphinarium. And maintain a shelter for cats and dogs.

“My (she is 7 years old) has not yet decided on her desires. Of the latter - a photojournalist. And finally, she has recently had the main leitmotif - I want to be famous. Yesterday we watched a film about Pugacheva on NTV, Katka said: “I want to be her.”

“Mine, when she was little, always dreamily, she said: “And I, mother, will be the director of the city” ...”.

“Daughter (age 9) wants to be a Latin coach. She completely froze on these beautiful girls who dance with them. ”

“My (in three weeks there will be five) wants to become an astronaut Very much regrets that “they don’t take dads and moms into space.”

Every now and then one hears talk about the fact that children are different now, with different values ​​and priorities. Previously, all the boys wanted to be astronauts, but now they are eager to become a director.

Is it really? How have children's aspirations changed since our childhood? Let's talk about this topic!

Money

Now, you see, children begin to get acquainted with money much earlier and closer, or something. The shops have a huge assortment of goodies and toys, which you can get only for money. The logic is simple - the child wants to become the one who has a lot of them.

Previously, my daughter was sure that sellers and cashiers turned over almost millions. After all, they have a cash register with a lot of banknotes. Therefore, she really wanted to become a salesperson in some store.

I managed to explain to her the approximate structure of the store, in which the seller receives only his salary, and not all the money from the cash register. The daughter's ardor has diminished a little, but we haven't had fewer games in the store. Still, after all, all the money earned went to her wallet, and not to product suppliers.

Beauty industry

It is rare to find girls who are indifferent to hairstyles, makeup and clothes. I still remember how I cut dolls, and now my child is doing the same.

What has changed?

It seems to me that there have been no radical changes over the past few decades, and the professions of firefighters and doctors are still popular among children. I confess that I have never heard that someone wanted to become a businessman or director, as grandmothers on benches like to talk about it.

On the other hand, preschoolers are not yet familiar with the whole variety of professions and their features. Therefore, in order to decide on priorities, you will have to wait until at least adolescence.

While many professions are interesting to my daughter - she wants to make sweets, another time she wants to work in a toy store or be a singer. I try to tell as much as possible about the reverse side of many specialties. The fact that gymnasts are not only beautiful costumes, but also a lot of training, and the life of actresses is not only performances.

What do your children want to be? Do you think children's priorities have changed in recent years?

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As children, we all dream a lot, thinking that we are subject to everything ... and even more. Each of us lived this wonderful time of dreams and fantasies, so such stories awaken a certain amount of nostalgia.

• As a child, I loved the series "Clone". Muslim women were especially admired. I thought that when I grow up, I get married and I will also always wear makeup, dressed up, dance belly dance for my husband. Grew. Got married. Yep, right now...

• In elementary school, they wrote an essay on the topic "What do you want to be when you grow up." In general, classmates wrote that they wanted to be policemen, hairdressers, doctors and astronauts, and I alone wrote that I wanted to become a cat. I just misunderstood the task, so I wrote about who I want to be in my next life.

• As a child, I was a sick child, so my mother and I often went to the clinic. I was just fascinated by the way the cleaners wash the floors. Vshuh-vshuh, turned the rag over, vshuh-vshuh ... Class. I wanted to be a cleaner.

• When I was little, I dreamed of becoming a salesman. After all, the sellers own the stores, which means they can take whatever they want there. That's what I thought until my mom told me the truth.

• I dreamed of becoming a train. Not a driver, but a train. I have always been fascinated by the way he dignifiedly drove up to the people waiting for him on the platform. The dream never came true.

• As a child, I wanted to become Dima Malikov. No kidding.

• In her school years, she was very jealous of her parents, because in the evenings they did not need to do any homework. Went to work during the day, and mind your own business the rest of the time. I dreamed that when I grew up, I would do the same. Now I'm 25. I come home from work and do nothing. The future has arrived!

• My younger brother dreamed of becoming a squid. It actually meant painter.

• And as a child, I wanted to become a girl of easy virtue. I remember one neighbor who was so beautiful that I can’t even describe. When she drove up to the entrance, all the girls from the yard ran to look at her. She gave clothes to older girls, and she gave us nail polishes. She was unusual, standing out from the crowds of other girls. The street grannies always said the typical insulting phrase when they saw her. And then I decided that I would be like her - a girl of easy virtue. Of course, then I said it in a more rude form, just like grannies from a bench. My parents even had a cassette recording from a conversation with a school psychologist when I was accepted into the 1st grade. I’m sitting there so smartly dressed, and to the question of what I want to become when I grow up, I proudly answer that I will become “sh ...”! Mom was in shock, dad sat giggling, and I could not understand their reaction, they should have been proud of me.

• A 5-year-old nephew is going to go to the store to work after kindergarten. More specifically, sort out rotten vegetables.

• In the 1st grade I dreamed of being a weapons baron, in the 5th grade I already wanted to become a scientist in the field of genetic engineering in order to create super-strong biological fibers. After that I dreamed of becoming an economist, and then I decided that I would go into international relations. Now I'm in 10th grade. My dream is to become a pensioner somewhere in Western Europe.

• As a child, she wanted to become a janitor, because she loved to sleep very much. I thought that the janitor woke up early in the morning, swept quickly and then he could go home ... to sleep.

• As a child, I dreamed that when I grow up, I will have my own rock band, with which we will give concerts around the world. Did not work out. I am a school principal.

What did you want to be as a child, and what profession did you choose in the end? Share your stories in the comments.

In fact, we now will not find out whether it is true that all the children of the Soviet Union dreamed of becoming astronauts, or is this another propaganda myth about a wonderful life under a dictatorship. But someone must have dreamed. And, no matter what lovers of criticizing modern children may think, some of them still dream of becoming an astronaut. Or a doctor. Or an architect. Or a musician. Most children have a very specific idea of ​​what they want to be. And no matter what it is, no matter how far this profession is from the one that you yourself have outlined for your “I invest so much in it” child, you need to help him, and here's why.

1. Only 30% of adults work in a profession that they have dreamed of since childhood.

2. 60% of people who did not grow up to be the person they wanted to be say they are unhappy at work.

3. At the same time, 85% (think about it) of those who work as they dreamed of in childhood are happy.

4. 54% of teenagers taught by pragmatic adults say they are ready to sacrifice their dream and choose a profession that will bring them more money.

5. At the same time, only 13% of adults are ready to change their favorite job for an unloved, but high-income one.

What does it all mean? Well, firstly, of course, that, apparently, with age we still get smarter and understand that it is difficult to achieve happiness, and it is not entirely related to the amount of money. It's comforting.

But what is not very comforting is that most children are going to make a terrible mistake and choose what they want to be based on how much they will earn (and it’s not a fact that they will), and not on the basis of what occupation will make them happy.

These numbers are like a journey into your child's future. Maybe now is just the moment when you need to stop talking to him about money and start talking about who he wants, and should not work when he grows up.

So, how to make sure that the child becomes what he wants when he grows up.

1. Don't ruin his dreams

Your child dreams of a profession that, in your opinion, does not suit him at all. With such a profession, you will not earn a living. Or he dreams of something so powerful that you know for sure - he will never be able to become a doctor or a ballerina. Never. There is no chance. You, too, dreamed of many things as a child, but could not. So he can't either.

This is a rare moment when you, as a good parent, need to shut up. The conversation is not about you, but about your child. And the fact that you failed to fulfill your childhood dream does not mean that he will not succeed either.

Or maybe you secretly even want him to fail, so that against his background you don’t feel like such a loser?

If you are confident in yourself, you want him to succeed, but your motivation in this case is not so important. You do not need to tell your child that his dream does not suit you. As crazy as she is, it's your job to support her. Yes, 99 children out of 100 will not succeed, but one will succeed, and perhaps precisely because someone supported him in childhood. Maybe this one child is yours.

2. Make a plan of action

Help your child develop a detailed action plan. Do not limit yourself to official and meaningless “if you study well, you will become”. It won't. You know very well that the fives in the certificate do not at all guarantee your child the career he dreams of. You need a detailed plan.

What items are the most important? What should you pay special attention to? What additional courses should I take? What are the best universities and what do you need to get into them?

What additional skills that are completely unrelated to this profession can come in handy? Language? Which?

Sport? What else do you need to know? What to learn? Who to talk to? And what is plan B if you can’t get into the best university? Is it worth going to a worse university, or is it better to work for a year and gain experience?

Whatever the plan, it's time to explain to the child that people very often do not succeed in their plans the first time, and this does not mean that you need to give up. This means you have to try again. Until victory.

3. Let him change his dream

Another problem with childhood dreams is that they often change with age, and a lot. And sometimes you exhale with relief, because the previous dream was unrealistic (or did not suit you), and sometimes, on the contrary, you tense up. And in families where the child is very supported and invests a lot in making the dream of a profession come true, children who for some reason change their minds are often afraid to tell their parents about it out of guilt - “Well, what am I going to say now that now I want to become an architect, not a doctor, when my mother has been paying me a chemistry tutor for five years.

Explain to the child that he has every right to change his mind at any stage. You won't think less of him because of it.

Do you allow yourself to change your mind for any reason, and from a 14-year-old person you demand that he ironically decide what he will do for the rest of his life?

Help him. It is your main responsibility to make him become who he is.