Roles in the family: female and male

Female and male roles are not just someone's invented tradition. These roles are described in the Bible as something high, preserving the order established by history. Men are strong, strong, enduring and courageous. And so he was destined to be the protector and, as God himself commanded, the breadwinner of his family. At that time, a woman has a different purpose. She is a mother, mistress and helper. The myth is that women have a secondary role. But in Hebrew, the word "helper" means something completely different, it's a woman who stands in front of him.

Both female and male roles are equally important and significant, but different in their functions. In Marriage in Modern Society, the relationship between a man and a woman is likened to a key and a lock that join together and function as one. This book says that when a man and a woman are united, they do what they cannot do alone. No partner is perfect, but everyone is unique. They complement, but do not surpass each other.

Our society has completely forgotten about the existence of any female and male roles. Women seek equality, while men remain silent. Women occupy their prestigious positions, where they receive high salaries. Women do not need a man: in their protection and provision. Because of this, men do not see the need for themselves, do not feel like real men, and they do not have self-confidence. While men hide from women's leadership, women are becoming more and more masculine by taking on masculine roles.

Male and female labor

Back in the 60s, studies were conducted among hippies. All cases were evenly distributed among men and women. Men, like women, raised children, cooked food, and took care of the house. And women, along with men, worked on construction, in the fields and got food. At the end of this experiment, it was found that women were better at working in one area, and men were better in another.

Women were better at sewing and men were better at digging. When they performed work on equal terms, quarrels and disagreements began. Therefore, in order to organize work in a team, it is necessary to divide labor.

When the family correctly fulfills its roles, then great success in the life of the family is guaranteed. And most often, problems in the family occur when one of the family members does not play their role, it is taken to play someone else's role.

In order to be fully responsible in your female role, then undertake to fulfill only her. Children or other family members will help you to do and accomplish something, but only you should be responsible for the order in which the female role is performed. You must possess female thrift, responsibility, be able to use the skills and abilities in the female field. Achieve, by devoting yourself, well-being and happiness in your family.

Male needs

A man must have three needs, help him create them. Namely:

His main role is the breadwinner and protector. He should play the role of the head of the family. He should have support from the side of his beloved woman and children. Without the help of others, a man must independently provide for his household. Protect from adversity and difficulties that fall on their life path.
A man should feel the need and need of the family in his role.
A man should be ahead of and superior to a woman in this role..

To make your man happy, you need to give him the opportunity to play his main role in the family. He needs to feel that you need him and that he is superior to you in fulfilling his role. It must be remembered that in any case there will be no perfection. No need to find fault with trifles, do not interfere in his affairs. In case a man does not want to fulfill his male role - tell him about your problems and ask for help or solutions. In such situations, you need to be patient, changes do not happen immediately. Be sure to praise and thank the man. #Psychology of relationships between Men and Women#

The confusion of roles and their impact on our children

The confusion of roles is the fuzziness of male and female boundaries. This is someone doing their job. This is considered normal, but if it does not turn into a way of life. If every day a woman performs men's affairs, and a man - women's, then these actions for the family are destructive.

For many years we have been teaching and instilling femininity and courage in our children. Children learn by looking at their parents, taking an example from them, therefore, the image of male and female roles should be clear and precise. Children look at their parents, their clothes, their actions and deeds, their duties in the family. When roles are clearly distinguished in the home, boys will grow up to be masculine men and girls will grow up to be feminine women. But when there is no clarity in the roles, more often in such families children grow up as homosexuals.

Are the roles distributed fairly?

Most often, it is women who are not satisfied with the distribution of roles. They believe that a man should definitely help them around the house, and not relax after coming home from work. Seems fair, right? But if you look from the other side, then a woman, having raised children, frees her from this role after a while.

The children have grown up, and now the woman is becoming free in this area. As for a man, his task is to provide for his family throughout his life. Therefore, always remember this, doing your business joyfully, with the thought of a good future. There is no need to demand from the husband to do everything at once: to feed the family, raise children, and help around the house. It's just not possible.

The man is the leader!

God appointed a man to the position of head, king, boss, leader, president. Whether it be a large company, or a small organization, or a family, it must have a boss. For that there was order and for everything to be organized, without anarchy, without chaos.

The leader must be a man, because from birth and by nature he is already a leader who is endowed with determination. Decisions are often made in the family. And it is not always easy to reach some kind of solution, satisfying the needs of everyone: both men and women. Therefore, mutual agreement, unfortunately, is rare. Therefore, the family must have a leader and a person who decides and takes responsibility for his decision.

In order to reach mutual agreement, you need to live a certain time. But sometimes this time is not enough, especially when decisions are made quickly, in this place and at this hour. Therefore, the decisiveness of the head of the family is very important here.

Family leader rights

The family must have certain rules: behavior, family budget, table etiquette, use of household items, cleaning time, etc. The whole family takes part in setting the rules, offering various options at the family council.

A man should and has every right to make the final decisions. And the last word in any situation at home, at work, at expenses should remain with the man.

How should a wife lead a family?

Despite the fact that the husband is the head of the family, the woman takes an active part in family affairs and plays an important role. A wife is considered a support for her husband, because he has a huge responsibility. For a man, your thoughts and statements on the water of his decision are very important. If you do it right, then you will be able to lead a man. No wonder they say: "A man is a head, and a woman is a neck."

There is a vivid example of this in history about Mumtaz Mahal. The Taj Mahal was built in her honor. Her father is the chief minister, she has a good education, knowledge of languages. She was a very intelligent woman and had a strong influence on her husband and helped him run the country. She did it subtly and correctly, applying all her feminine tricks so that her husband next to her felt like a full-fledged head of the family and the ruler of India.

The most common mistakes women make

Very often, women make mistakes in their influence on men, sometimes without even knowing it themselves: leadership, nit-picking, pressure, advice, disobedience.

The biggest mistake is advice. A woman gives them very often and too much. When your man tells you a problem or some situation, do not rush to immediately give him advice. Before you advise something, you need to think about how to present it, and what is possible and not worth saying. If you immediately tell him what to do, then because of this, he will lose confidence in you. He may assume that you know the answers to all questions, that you are doing just fine without him.

How often do you find fault with your husband? Point out what he did wrong or what he could have done better? How often do you criticize him? Such nitpicking will give the impression that you do not believe in his ability to lead a family or make decisions. The husband will think that you do not have confidence in him. Therefore, you must build, but in no case destroy the confidence in your husband.

Learn to obey your soul mate. This will be easier to do if you learn to agree with him. Obedience is the best way to give a man confidence in his masculine role.

How to learn obedience?

Respect him as a man and as head. And also teach your children to treat him the same way. Listen to the words of the Bible that God has put a man at the head of the family.
Do not dominate the family. Give this role to your husband, and obey him yourself. When you give him the opportunity to lead, he will devote more to you in business and ask for advice, he will give you the opportunity to become part of his leadership.
Trust your husband. Any relationship is built on trust. Don't worry about the big decisions he made. Let him take care of it himself. All people make mistakes, and your husband is no exception, and neither are you. The main thing is the motives and his judgments, and not what mistake he made. For you, some of his judgments may be unreasonable, but learn to accept them as such.
Learn to adapt and not be stubborn. Know how to adapt to all the conditions and situations in which you find yourself with your husband. Remember that this is his choice, and he is the head of the family.
listen.
Be one with your husband especially for your children.
Support your husband in decisions, plans and endeavors.
Talk about your feelings and explain your position.

Women have intuition and insight, and it is these gifts given to a woman that help men give advice. The wife is very close as no one else to the problems and life of her husband. Just don't hand out advice as daily food.

When giving advice, always ask leading questions, then listen to it, tell how you understand it. Do not seek to show your husband that you know more than him, and do not give advice in the role of a mother. Otherwise, it will seem to him that he is a little boy. But don't be tough and don't dominate. Give advice without pressure and don't try to manipulate.

What are the problems in family management?

Fear that the husband will fail.
Women's rebellion.
Husband's doubts. Fear drives everyone, and your husband too. It may even be his trait. Therefore, the best way is to come to terms with it and learn to deal with it and live.
Husband's unwillingness to lead. Here you need to talk with your husband about leadership in the family, that there should be one person in charge, that you need him as a leader and as a “strong hand”.
Encouraging Children to Do Wicked Works. In this case, you need to leave yourself and take your children away from such a house. This is depravity in a family under bad influence. It may be that your husband simply stumbled because of his weakness and for him moral principles ceased to matter. Here you should be patient and try to save your family and marriage.

Reward

The one where the husband is the head, there will be order in the family. This is a harmonious family without disagreements and quarrels. A man who takes on the responsibility of leading a family becomes decisive, responsible and confident in himself and his abilities.

Children who grew up in such a family respect teachers, elders, and leaders in various fields.

Such marriages are happy, which means that people are also happy.