Behavior with a married man. Mistress of a married man: rules of conduct
1. If you decide to become a mistress married man, then remember that you can stay in this role forever. According to statistics, only 3% of men leave their families and leave their wives to marry their mistress. The rest prefer to change the latter, remaining "faithful" family men and fathers.
If so, then immediately give up blackmail, persuasion and attempts to prove that you are the best, and live the way you live. Get the most out of these relationships, or at least get rid of loneliness at least for a while.
2. You must remember that married men (no matter how much they earn) love to give gifts to their mistresses. Therefore, if they don’t marry you anyway, use at least this - find yourself a richer man, and rejoice at each gift as if it were the first and last in your life. Only with such a reaction of yours will the generosity of a man dry up only when he loses interest in you.
3. Many wealthy lovers simply love to arrange the fate of their mistresses. And if so, if you are suddenly sent to study, or offered to get a well-paid job, do not say no. The lover will leave, but the education and work (or at least the entry on the resume) will remain. And this is not so bad, if you look at it soberly.
4. Remember that in romances on the side, married men are looking for what they don't get at home. Therefore, you will always have to play a strictly defined role: act like a fool, only have certain types of sex, always stay at home and wait for it. There may be many options, but whatever they are, any departure from the once and for all established rules will repel your lover forever.
5. As much as you would like, try not to date several men at once. Better be patient and find yourself one, but the best. It will pay off both financially and morally, because there is nothing worse than dodging, hiding and lying. Yes, and men are not as stupid creatures as they try to pretend, and almost any of them will immediately understand if you suddenly have an affair on the side.
6. Always remember the "rainy day", the moment when your lover leaves you. Therefore, if you live solely at his expense, then try to ensure that by the time of the break you have accumulated enough funds to start, if not completely independent, then at least a calm and unhurried search for a new man.
7. Men are suspicious creatures, and therefore it will always seem to them that their wives know much more about them than they show. Therefore, they will always ask you (or even demand) to comply with a certain conspiratorial code. Do not resist in any way. Do everything as you are told. Does not frame her lover chance meeting or a random call. He will not leave his wife, and most likely he will leave you. If he doesn’t leave, and you even make peace, then you will have to forget about gifts and trips abroad for a long time.
8. Remember that you should always, under any circumstances, be better than his wife. This will not increase your chances of marriage, but it will strengthen your relationship with your lover many times over, and if they are, then yours financial situation. Unless, of course, you are a fighter for clean relationships with married men.
9. Break up easily. Without tantrums and tears. There is nothing worse than a guilty man. After all, you don’t need him to come to you again and again, hoping to make amends for “his guilt”? You need to improve your life, and not drag along dead and going nowhere connections. Therefore, part once and for all, and if a man tries to meet you again, then let him know that repetition is impossible.
10. Never let one lover "bequeath" you or transfer you as a thing to another man, otherwise you risk becoming a prostitute who costs almost nothing, which means she does not need to give gifts and does not need to be won. Always remember that what men value most is what they had to conquer. Therefore, even if the initiative in your new relationship belongs to you, always make the man get the impression that he conquered you, and that if he had not tried, you would never have become his ... mistress.
We meet to bring joy to each other. Our mutual relationship can continue as long as we both want it.
We don't owe each other anything. Each of us can end a relationship at any time.
The myth that women only want money was invented by men who have no money
Many women I know believe that relationships on the side are good because when we meet for a short time, we expose that part of ourselves that our partner loved. There are connections on the side that are motivated by money, getting status, building a career. But very often these relationships are built on great power who holds two loving hearts in one palm. But in any relationship, it is important to hear yourself, only then you can understand yourself.
Mistress - from the word love
How unpleasant it is to hear him for a woman whom Fate has brought together with a married man. And if she is married or both have a family and love becomes a mystery, a problem, a pleasure - how difficult it is for people in love, right?
Very often the "mistress" is a second-class woman. Society considers the mistress immoral, licentious, a scoundrel. No one is so strongly condemned by human rumor as her. Razluchnitsu, villain, hunter for other people's husbands. In a word, mistress. She gets everything: attention, gifts, love. And what remains a legitimate and once dearly beloved wife? Just be patient and wait for her beloved to go crazy and return to their native land. But is it worth looking for the truth? Whose side is she on? Everyone has their own truth. Personal. This is a threesome tango, and being the mistress of a married man is not the greatest holiday in life. Although any situation ultimately is the way you yourself feel about it. But it is not for us to talk about morality and rules, it is not for us to judge and pass sentences, the truth is not known to anyone except God.
You are free, he is married
You fell in love with the classic father of a family with children! And he does not look like a person who has a family in each district. You fell in love with each other for the first time in many years and did not notice how the dance of intertwined souls and bodies turned into a long romance.
You will not be envied, many say, you are just a spicy spicy seasoning for insipid family dishes. Many feel sorry for him that he fell into the trap of sexual attraction and psychological comfort. After all, he immediately said that he was married and had children, but there are things that do not suit him in the family. Then he said that he loves you, but he will never be able to hurt his wife ... and leave her, leaving the children. Most likely you kicked him out after that, but somewhere in 2 weeks you returned. Passionate, hungry for you....
Almost every woman in her life at least once was in the role of a mistress. I am writing to those who heard the long-awaited word "beloved" ...., but could not change anything. How many sleepless nights and shed tears, feelings range from love to hate. He is married and will never be yours, but he is more than a simple date for you. You trusted him, sincere and dear, and this is an unacceptable luxury for a woman at all times.
Now you are no longer a lover, but a woman who has become twisted and believes in fairy tales, if you choose the role of a lover and are ready to leave everything as it is, not hoping for marriage, well, your right.
Why does a woman need it?
Any woman going into a relationship outside the family does not distribute her love as alms, but is looking for a winner for herself. Or fall in love or have fun.
Why does a woman accept the courtship of someone else's husband:
Busy and don't want to build complex interpersonal relationships
She has already "married" and, until you are no longer burning with desire, therefore you consciously choose such a role, since he is not needed as a husband
He's fun to be with and puts on great performances in bed, but there's NOTHING to have in common.
Do you think that associating life with some one man is "cutting your wings"
gray family everyday life, are replaced by passionate relationships
I want to be happy and change the status of "no one needs a woman"
Are you looking for a love that can transform your life, which you dreamed of all your life
Sleeping for money and connections
Why does a man need it?
Being in love helps to overcome a psychological crisis, looking for changes, a romance is a great chance to change the monotony of everyday life, a man can again become a free and windy youth, at least for 2 hours a day
A man to assert himself, that is, to displace all doubts about his male viability, since many past victories are already behind.
The mistress will provide him with an interest in life and respect for himself, and he will love her - his life and himself - again. And it also satisfies needs - emotional (to be desired) and sexual (to feel delight or recover from impotence).
Lack of new experiences. In the midst of complete well-being and stability in life, he wants to create obstacles and inconveniences for himself, combined with pleasure, and satisfy the need to overcome freshly created difficulties. Mystery and intrigue on the side excites a man no less than sex.
A mistress is a great opportunity for time manipulation. Old age is suitable, and with a young woman you can return your good old personal. Or you want to pleasantly kill time with youthful awe and ardor. He is inclined to believe that the best events in life are unplanned, so you should not expect that he will warn about his arrival. He is free, and what does he care about your affairs? Doorbell. He thinks about himself, catches up with his youth and revives. What are you doing here? Throw the unwashed dishes and jump on the bed of love (otherwise he will change his mind)! The man has come...!
He is driven by a desire to take revenge on his wife for infidelity or for her preoccupation with herself and inattention to him. He, my dear, by you increases his self-esteem and is psychologically compensated, because you create comfort for him and stimulate him to life, exalting a man and loving disinterestedly, but at the same time he has no obligations to you.
With you, that is, on the side, he realizes his sexual dreams: he can engage in perversions such as “sado” or “maso”, since it’s impossible at home.
He is convinced of his exclusivity, craves admiration and scores points in his circle of friends, demonstrating success on the women's front, if he fails on other fronts, for example, at work. Sometimes a man gets a mistress just because all his friends have them.
Sometimes a mistress becomes a manifestation of a man's misogyny, because in life he seeks to humiliate, insult a woman. Cheating for such a man is a kind of aggression: this is how he hits the psyche of two women at once and enjoys it. It’s not enough for him to have one sobbing at home, it would be nice if there were more!
And a man can also be blissful when two women are fighting for him, he feels himself in the spotlight. He gets more pleasure from female rivalry than from the charms provided on the side. In case of failure of the mistress's nerves, he immediately changes her and will certainly inform his wife about this, and the wife will attract more attention to him, even if this is an ordinary scandal,
Who is the ideal lover?
Advantages and disadvantages. Perhaps, after our conclusions, someone will think about whether the game is worth the candle, or perhaps it will make someone think and retreat. After all, this is a very serious game, and the stakes here are human destinies.
The ideal lover is a free woman who allows you to manage your feelings and emotions without regard to others. She is a holiday for her chosen one.
The ideal lover often loves herself more than her man. Delivering pleasure, she gets it herself. She cannot imagine her life without pleasures. Relationships themselves tickle her nerves, playing on the verge of a foul brings an amazing burst of adrenaline. She provokes him and gets turned on by this herself, adding spice to their already hot relationship. She assured her lover that he was an amazing, unique sexual partner. She mastered the art of seduction one hundred percent and not in order to keep him or win new spaces in his heart.
All women are lovely
and gives them beauty
love of men.
(A.S. Pushkin)
Mistresses are slaves
In fact, mistresses are very dependent on the object of their love. Their lot is waiting and endless patience. Judge for yourself: after all, a married man does not have much time left for "left" adventures.
First, work. A real man he works all day long (you need to provide for the family and contrive to make gifts to his mistress, and so that the wife does not notice “holes” in the family budget).
Second, family. Most men don't want to hurt their wives with news of a rival. Therefore, they try not to deviate from the usual schedule of life: to work at 9.00 - lunch at 14.00 - home at 19.00. Of course, late “meetings” and “meetings with business partners” can happen, but when they take place six times a week, and even if after them the man’s clothes smell of perfume, then even the most not jealous wife becomes suspicious. Therefore, in order not to face the "iceberg" in the form of a legitimate half, a man is forced to appoint, cancel, reschedule meetings with his mistress, and she, in turn, has only to wait, wait and wait again.
Mistress: all waiting
The worst thing for a female lover is lonely weekends, holidays and vacations. After all, a married man should spend all these wonderful days of rest exclusively with his family.
And "most best woman in the world”, which “understands him alone” (that is, a mistress), only the words are intended: “Well, you understand ... I must ... Next time I will arrange such a holiday for us! ..” And a lonely woman believes and does not believe him at the same time.
As a result, she spends the weekend in the company of her adored cat, frantically running to the phone with every call: what if this is her beloved, who somehow managed to get rid of her “harmful wife” and wants to come for tea. But along with the expectation of the usual call in the heart of a woman-lover, there is a BIG expectation.
She hopes that someday he will go to her forever. The worst thing is that a heartthrob lover almost never admits that he is not going to leave his family.
And weak-willed men will constantly appeal to the pity of their beloved: “Don't leave me! I can't talk to my wife right now - she's sick! And the day after tomorrow she has an exam in the traffic police (three months of classes with a car instructor flew by so quickly). A month later, my son turns ten years old. Well, you understand, I can’t do this… Wait a little more!”
And she's waiting. Waiting patiently. And when the wife gets well, and when she passes her damned exams, and when her son is ten...and fifteen...and twenty.
But as soon as the mistress tries to start a serious conversation, that she is no longer a girl, that she wants to have a family, a son, celebrate his birthdays ... the man immediately gives out another "defensive" speech and ... she agrees to wait "a little more." As a reward, flowers, expensive cosmetics and a romantic dinner.
Mistakes of wife and mistress
- Hysterics
Wife. Tears, of course, remove the stress hormone. And picturesque tears flowing from the corners of the eyes make a woman helpless, fragile, and a feeling of guilt of unprecedented strength arises in the soul of a man, but let's be objective: our women still don't know how to cry beautifully. Or they can, but only on screens. In reality - whistling sobs, streaming tears, throat rales, red nose, swollen eyes, broken dishes, shaking the child and the frying pan - and the husband, who understands that it is better to run away from here, and as soon as possible.
Mistress. It's too early for you to hysteria. You knew what you were getting into. If you really want to cry, practice letting the aforementioned picture tears. God forbid you even from a hint of hysteria. Hysterical, most likely, he ate at home to the eyeballs. And if they cry there and beat the dishes, then they cry and, at best, just cry, without damaging the property, then where can he go? What if, again, they don’t cry at all? Then your tears will not even have time to dry, as the amant will rush to seek peace and quiet under the wing of a wife suddenly overgrown with dignity.
- Guilt
Wife. Yes, he is guilty. I'll tell you more - he knows it and he has to live with it all his life. Moreover, if he is a sane person, then he adequately assesses the degree of his guilt, and for the “spoiled” three years of his life he will not rush to build a mansion on Rublyovka. Agree on reasonable moral and financial compensation. For myself, for the children. If he has problems with an adequate worldview, pedaling guilt can, of course, become a deterrent, but only from a normal man will your spouse turn into a driven creature with a sense of sharp mental disorder against the backdrop of an ever-growing sense of guilt. He will end up confessing to the organization of the Jewish Masonic conspiracy, the assassination of Kennedy, and until the end of your days you will carry packages to the clinic of neuroses for him.
Mistress. His guilt is no more than yours. Of course, if you went into a relationship with an unfree person with open eyes. It is unlikely that he managed to do something so badly in front of you. And when you try to evoke this not at all a wonderful feeling in him, you might think. By the way, it is possible
brotherly effect. The more you try to arouse in him a feeling of guilt before you for some things that are not worth attention, the stronger the feeling of guilt towards the abandoned family will be activated in him. “Yeah,” a man will think, “they blame it for a diamond of the wrong size, and there they went through their entire student youth in tattered shoes and didn’t utter a single word.” And if the wife is a competent manipulator, then instead of blaming him for something, she will begin to actively pity him. And you. And him along with you. Do you already know what's coming next?
- Total control
Wife and mistress. Sniffing, rummaging, constantly monitoring the phone, computer, pockets, neighbors, friends... the list of women's mistakes is endless. A person who is deprived of personal space sooner or later comes to a reasonable conclusion to eliminate the cause of the violation of his personal boundaries. Phone and mail are still very intimate things. And a man working with more than one woman may smell like someone else's perfume for completely innocent reasons. And what exactly are you hoping to find there? It is worth remembering that whoever seeks will always find, and think about whether this is exactly what you want.
- Blackmail child
Wife. A child is not a bargaining chip. And under no circumstances should it become a tool of manipulation. Psychologists all over the world unanimously assert: a child who has become the reason that two people are forced to live together, growing up, acquires numerous complexes, and his childhood is far from happy. Better a loving set of separated parents than a life of constant heat
Mistress. Not a single child in the world has kept a single man - our mothers love to repeat this phrase. Learn by heart. And look at the recommendations for the wife, they apply to you too.
Do not look for people who do not lie - they do not exist. Look for those who deceive, but do not betray - you can deal with such people.
Part 5 How to take a lover out of the family? Unfortunately, romantic women are not always able to maintain their composure. Many ladies fall hopelessly in love with married lovers. What to do in that situation, if you have really strong feelings for this particular man? According to statistics, no more than 5-7 percent of unfaithful spouses go to mistresses. But there is always a chance. The main thing is to follow wise advice: - Remember that if a man has not left the family after a year of your relationship, he will never do this. Therefore, it is necessary to act much earlier. - Try to study your lover well. He will probably constantly tell you about himself, problems in relations with his wife. Learn his habits and personality traits. - Let him know that he can trust you. Be an attentive listener and interlocutor. Keep all his secrets and problems in strict confidence. Do not refuse the help and support he needs if you are able to do something for him. - Remember that a man will leave his wife only for the sake of a mistress who will be much better than her. Therefore, you need to make time for your appearance, go to the gym and always look as neat as possible. - Take care of intellectual enrichment. Men love women who can keep up a smart conversation on any life topic. At the same time, you should not try to show your superiority. - Try not to disturb the man with your own problems. He should not see your tears and tantrums. With you, he should constantly feel warmth and joy. - If the object of your passion is over 40 years old, you should exercise maximum caution. You need to determine what this man really wants. Accustomed to many years of marriage, he will be able to go only to that mistress who can provide him with the most comfortable living conditions. - Learn different sexual techniques. You have to become a real master in this matter. Returning home, a man should feel that something is missing. - Try not to touch the financial issue. If you need to find out the income level of a loved one, do it indirectly. - You should give the impression of a simple and rather docile woman with whom he will not have constant conflicts. Of course, you should also have your own point of view. For a lover, you must be calm and accommodating For a lover, you must be calm and accommodating - In no case do not try to tell the wife of your beloved about your own existence. Do you think that this will push him to certain decisive actions? This is not true. Most likely, an unprepared man will simply get scared and end your relationship, begging for forgiveness from his wife. - Be interested in his professional achievements. Men often put their career first in their lives. Sincere curiosity on your part can warm up the feelings of a lover. - Never be interested in the future of your relationship. Otherwise, the man will immediately understand that you are very much in love with him. And that means the game is lost. - If a man has children, try to show a sincere interest in this issue. Surely he will be happy to talk about his kids. Even if a man has fallen out of love with his wife, he will never give up his children. Your inquiries will show your lover that, in the event of your reunion, you will gladly accept his daughter or son. And no problems like " new wife does not allow to see the children from the first marriage” will not arise.
The game of cat and mouse, the agonizing expectations of meetings and the inability to communicate as normal people compels to observe a whole set of rules of conduct with married men. How to deal with a married lover right? Read the article and find out all the details!
A married lover is a hard case. He is capricious, demanding, as a rule, generous, but at the same time rather stupid. A mistress for him is a kind of status item, a way of entertainment ... In general, anything, but not a woman for whom he is ready for exploits.
Don't call him yourself
This is the first and most important rule. When he needs it, he will pick it up himself. As soon as you start to break this rule, your "married man" will be upset and is unlikely to want to continue the relationship. However, calls from your side are allowed if he allowed you. As a rule, he will be ready to receive calls from you on weekdays in work time and categorically prohibits dialing in the evenings and weekends.
Violation of this rule alone entails your disqualification from the army of the right mistresses.
Always protect yourself!
Since you have managed to start an affair with a married man, the most correct and reasonable thing for you will be to regularly protect yourself than not to fly from your beloved. If he is self-confident and wealthy, brings up children, he is unlikely to leave his wife. And you risk being left alone with a child in your arms. And not the fact that the father will provide assistance morally and financially.
Don't let the thought of calling your wife
No matter how your relationship develops, you have no right to call his wife and talk about your relationship with her husband. In fact, when you started a relationship with a ringed man, you knew what you were getting into. In this case, the moral side of the relationship is only on his side and yours. And you don’t need to involve your spouse in your unfulfilled family ambitions!
However, today the wives of unfaithful husbands are taught to behave correctly: they skillfully and even talentedly rebuff impudent people who have encroached on their family hearth.
Don't drink it and don't swear
The wife does an excellent job with these functions: she will cut, she will scream, and she will refuse sex. Your task is to be darling and cutie, sexy, well-groomed and loved. A man comes to you to rest his body and soul, and not listen to moans and whining about a bad life, lack of money and a headache that prevents you from having sex right now.
be careful
Do not annoy your chosen one and try to be helpful: pick up the phone when he calls, tell where you are and with whom you are leaving, leave notes. You should know what to say to a married lover how to satisfy his needs and how to become the ideal woman for him.
Second lover - taboo
Relationships, even with a married man, make you obligated.
Forget about relationships with other men. This is a matter of cleanliness, morality and honor! Having a second lover will turn you into an accessible girl of easy virtue, and not into a worthy mistress of a wealthy man. It is best to refuse to communicate with guys on dating sites during the period of your relationship. Or, in extreme cases, make the questionnaire anonymous! You never know, suddenly your chosen one is also looking for a replacement for you there?
Don't count on a long-term relationship with a sequel
The Gulena man will always remain so. Even if you manage to twist him, divorce him from his wife and marry him to yourself, he is unlikely to be stopped by all the stages he has gone through. A couple of months or years, and your chosen one will again go for a walk among the women, not very encrypted. Nature, you know, can not be deceived!