Who should keep the family hearth? Why is a woman the keeper of the hearth?

Women who consider the creation of a comfortable life challenging task who draws on the work of a lifetime - prostitutes. They are fed, clothed and put on shoes, and in return they keep the house and provide the breadwinners with their vaginal and other openings for use.

Every time I voice this point of view, I meet the fierce resistance of the shirnarmass. Chickens scream that being a wife and mother is the hardest work. They are echoed by pancakes, who plow in their open spaces like galley slaves so that the chickens have money for home improvement.

At the same time, the slaves themselves, yelling on the Internet about the sanctity of their domesticated wives, do not in any way add coziness or comfort in life to ugly petty-bourgeois tablecloths and withered palm trees in clay tubs.

Deep down, every nutcracker wants the pet with whom he is legally married to take on a human form and engage in some real business. important matter, becoming a reliable partner in his life, whom you can count on.

However, to admit this means to admit oneself as a sucker, which one cannot cope with one's own lazy and frustrated woman. So the unfortunate pancakes pretend that this state of affairs suits them completely, that the image of the keeper hearth for them relevant, bright and beautiful as a young Angelina Jolie.

And do not care that the keeper of the hearth of the sample of the 21st century has nothing to do with her ancient prototype of the keeper and cannot have.

IN old times when this really bright and respectable image was born, the woman worked at home, tirelessly. Kindle the fire, butcher the mammoth, feed the children of the weather, save them from the cold, heat and wild animals, and even manage to drive them into the forest for roots.

Women's domestic work has not lost its significance for many centuries and has been a necessary condition for the survival of the family.

However, times have changed. We no longer carve fire from stone, we don’t ride horses, we don’t weave canvases and we don’t spin yarn, we don’t work in the field, we don’t wash clothes in the river, we don’t give birth to 10 children, and now we have not only cowards, but even and tampax.

The life of a modern woman is clothed so much that to build it into a matter of life is outright prostitution: “You, husband-slave, provide for me and children, and I, in best case, I will go to some lightweight job where they pay a penny, and at home I will press the “on” and “off” buttons on household appliances. Hang the washed and wrung out washing machine laundry is hard and thankless domestic work, yes. And, in general, I bring up your children, take them to Kindergarten».

True, there are keepers of the hearth who do not want to use the services of a kindergarten, turning children into a living excuse for their own idleness. Mothers of those children who require serious and daily medical care are an exception.

A runny nose does not require serious and daily medical care. A child who has snot from time to time is not an invalid, and he can and should be sent to a kindergarten. However, sincere keepers of the hearth, that is, lazy prostitutes, are in no hurry to do this, because then they will have to go to work and work, which is much more difficult than pushing a sofa with their ass and turning on household appliances.

I understand that my point of view is still unpopular among the people, because it hits the sick and contradicts the prevailing stereotypes. But remember: when the car appeared, many looked at it with distrust, fear and outright hostility, preferring to ride horses.

Times have changed, and now a person who moves around the city on a horse, and not in a car, looks like a complete jerk. Due to the development of technology, horse-drawn transport has lost its relevance in society, just as the image of the keeper of the hearth is rapidly losing it. Previously, the keeper of the hearth was a hard worker, and now she is a latent prostitute.

Latent prostitute is not my term. I am glad that in the war with chickens I am not alone.

“In our country, unfortunately, most women have the psychology of a latent prostitute: to find a rich man to feed. And for this they plan to run the household and give themselves up in bed. Things should be called by their proper names: this is prostitution,” writes a psychotherapist with 40 years of experience, Mikhail Litvak.

Here is an excerpt from his interview, which I recommend reading in full.

- But there is a theory that a woman should only inspire a man, create comfortable conditions for him, remaining in his shadow ...

- You are confusing a man with a trouser-bearer. A man doesn't need to be inspired. He himself is inspired by his work and its result.

Nothing to add. Unless: to talk about how you inspire a man is much easier than being a full-fledged fighting unit in the family, whose support you can count on. By support, I mean not so much words as actions.

Life is full of surprises and trials.
It happens that life together from the very beginning raises questions, starting with the smallest things, such as not important, secondary and not determining strength family life, but...

Starting family life, many are initially carried away by their feelings and do not pay attention to some of the "little things" of life. And these little things have a very unpleasant feature to accumulate, cause irritation, misunderstanding and often disagreements.
And it is so important to have before your eyes good example, or a faithful and reliable friend nearby, who will be able to give in time right advice, to keep from a rash step. And if there was none nearby, remember the following:

1. A wise or intelligent woman is restrained, faithful, will do everything for the well-being of the family.
Indeed, in the family, it is her mood that creates the weather!

2. Family life is, above all, cooperation. Therefore, a wise woman immediately chooses a suitable life partner who would be ready not only for good sex, but also for cooperation. Wise woman knows that in marriage no one owes anyone, because marriage should be based on love and on a deep understanding and respect for goals life together, and independent goals in the life of each individual.

3. Personal relationships are the most valuable and essential thing in your life. Every day, every moment, you create your future. Living together is like building a strong building. Every day, event after event, like a brick by a brick, you mortgage this house. As you build it, you will live in such a house. A wise woman knows all this. Every day, with love and great dedication, she puts herself completely into this construction.

4. Women are creators by nature. A wise woman knows that basically the weather in the house and the mood of her husband depend on her, and this is where the most important thing begins. Its main tools are: love, sincerity, understanding and patience. Using these tools, she explains to her husband that main secret A woman's nature is to love, to be loved, and to develop close relationships. It is in her nature.

5. A wise woman knows that men and women love differently. And knowing this, she does not expect and does not demand actions from her husband that should correspond specifically to women's ideas about love. A wise woman knows courtesy, which was on the first date, must be carried through life. She respects her husband as a stranger, because knows that it is impossible to get too close and consider each other their property.

6. Of course, in a joint life, cases of irritation of spouses with each other are very frequent. But what is irritation? This is a personal problem of the irritable, related to the fact that his / her expectations do not correspond to reality. So why did she place the wrong expectations on her husband? And why should a spouse endure irritable speeches, aggression, if he is not to blame for the fact that they were mistaken about him? A wise woman knows that irritation is a sign of bad parenting, she knows that irritation is inappropriate anywhere and never. And if it suddenly arose, then it is necessary to deal with it, sincerely looking inside yourself, because no one else is to blame for this.

7. A wise woman knows how to forgive her man, realizing that all people are not perfect and she is no exception. She should gently but confidently talk about her annoyances and resentments to her man, trying not to "stick" on her emotions.

8. A wise woman is patient. Patience is the main quality of women, a quality that men practically do not possess. Remember that patience is your main bonus in life. Patience is waiting for the right moment, it is the ability to control your emotions, of which a woman has a lot.

9. A wise woman is a woman who lives in harmony with herself, with those around her, a woman who knows how to derive pleasure, even from the smallest, to give pleasure in the smallest. A woman who knows how to reconcile and extinguish the growing explosion, a woman who does not get into cheap poses of resentment, because dignity is not in poses and pouting faces (I haven’t talked to you for three days), but in actions.

10. And, finally, the main female wisdom lies in her ability to be smooth, slow, sexy. The smoothness of her body movements through life and the manifestation of weakness (even if a little feigned) is the most The right way communication with men. No rivalry and desire to manage everything in a relationship - men do not like this. Leave them initiative, just direct your partner a little and that's it, he himself will find a way to achieve desired goal. To be smooth, slow, gentle and moderately weak is truly feminine, this is what attracts any man, gives him more confidence in life. Sometimes you can play a strong, militant woman - for contrast in a relationship, and it does not hurt.

A wise woman through the eyes of one man:

For me, the wisdom of a woman lies in the absence of any conflict - internal or external. I don't know if I can express myself clearly, but I'll try. A woman is peace and tranquility, she is too weak to harm someone, and her strength is only enough to hurt someone else's pride (it is from there that the legs grow from the expression "all evil from women"). Who has been changed or cured by wounded pride? As you know, the actions of another can be influenced by force or persuasion, influence by force is not for women, there is no place for conflict in persuasion. Grumpy ladies soar me, ladies who, splashing saliva, go to a quarrel, although what can a woman decide by a quarrel? I am hovered by girls who follow the general wave and create an image of aggressive loners. They are stupid. They are pitiful. Looking at them, I want to cry, because I know how such a theater ends, since there are many examples scattered around.

Chaly Michael:

Consider imagery of words:
"Head" - G (speak) + La (Soul) + V (eating) + A (sa) - "direct the energy of the Soul by the Knowing Ace"
"Keeper" - X (er - world balance, harmony) + Ra (Primordial Light) + Tel (a) + b (created) + Nitsa (ending indicating belonging to the female sex)
The "hearth" - originally - an open fire in the dwelling of the Ancestors, when the hut was heated "in black" and the smoke from the fire ate out the eyes, and the eyes "crawled" out of their sockets.
Pts (s) + Ag (ha - move, climb out)
As you can see, the “keeper of the hearth” cannot by any means be the “head of the Family”, because a 30-year-old woman can also be the keeper, but the head of the Family is only the wisest (that is, the oldest) in the Family.

The following - and do not we remember something from the Indian Vedas:

Man's Responsibilities:
Husband is a husband. His duties to his wife are as follows: to support, buy clothes and jewelry, protect, teach, bestow trust, love and gentle words, never upset her, speak kind words and, most importantly, educate.
A man who has managed to win the love of a chaste woman has succeeded in comprehension of the Faith and has all the virtues.
The most valuable thing that a man can give to a woman is his Strength, the image of his Spirit and the image of his Blood. If for a wife her husband is the first man who threw his seed into her, then if he treats her as the mother of his future children, and not as an object of lust, he can give her not only the energy of his seed and the Force necessary for conception and bearing a child, but also to reveal her Feminine Lot. A man, passing on to his wife the image of his Spirit - the qualities of his Life and the image of Blood - the qualities of his Breed, takes her under the protection of his Family, endows her with the Feminine Share - the ability to Love for her husband and children, and reveals her Family Memory - an intuitive insight into the accumulated experience of her and her Ancestors on the female line about the creation of love relationships in the family and maintaining harmony in the house.

Woman's Responsibilities:
The wife is the spouse. Her duties to her husband are as follows: in work - a servant; in care - mother; in perseverance - like the earth; in beauty - Lada; in conversation - a sage; in bed - a witch.
According to the Vedic order, a woman must perform 6 duties that ensure family happiness.

1. In care - mother.
Nowadays, most women regard their husbands as the source of their material wealth and sense gratification. It also means that a wife should treat her husband not consumerly, but disinterestedly - like a mother who gives herself to her child, not seeking to receive anything in return.
Such women are patronized by the Goddess Makosh, providing them with family happiness.

2. In work - a servant.
The basic beliefs of the world say that a man and a woman, being originally one, were subsequently separated, and now each of them seeks to find his other half. The Vedic scriptures give the science of finding this half, but dark forces, interested in the predominance of the ungodly population, tried to lead people away from this science. In our time, meetings of alien halves take place, which either immediately repel each other, as a result of which children grow up as orphans even without wars, or somehow rub against each other, most often vegetating in a gray, hateful life. That is why the union of two native halves is called a wedding, and the meeting of strangers is called a marriage (a good deed will not be called a marriage!). In modern christian church marriage can also be called a wedding.
For his spiritual development, a man must certainly serve his spiritual teacher, but the happiness of having him around all the time is available only to a few. The advantage of a female incarnation lies precisely in the fact that the wife always has her husband by her side, who should be her spiritual teacher. At the same time, the wife, taking on the brunt of family life, is obliged to give her husband the opportunity to have the time necessary for spiritual perfection. It is this selfless activity that is the way of its exaltation and the main advantage over the male incarnation; that is why in the Vedic scriptures a woman is compared to a boat with which a man can cross the ocean of life.
Such women are patronized by Mother Swa - the goddess Tsarasvati (Royal Light), who blesses the light of devotional service to her husband.
The Manu Samhita says that a woman should not be given freedom, but this does not mean that women should be in the position of slaves. They are more like children, they are easily deceived, and if children are not given freedom, this does not mean that they are treated like slaves. At present, most of the people deceived by demons disregard these provisions, believing that women should be given the same rights as men: in no country has such a situation improved the state of society. In fact, women should be taken care of at every step of their lives. In childhood, a woman should be under the protection of her father, in her youth - her husband, and in old age - her adult sons. However, modern civilization has artificially created a new idea of ​​a woman as an independent being, and therefore now the morals of most women are not at a high level. When people in their ignorance do not recognize the prescriptions useful for society, do not follow the experience of the Great Sages, do not adhere to the Vedic rules, their culture is in a deplorable state.
According to Vedic concepts, a husband leads his wife in the same way as a father leads his children, therefore, from ancient times she was called a follower, and, depending on how she followed her leader, a karmic sentence was drawn up for her behavior. Violation of this charter was called a misdemeanor or a crime, since the violation of the lawful customs of our Ancestors seduces a woman from the real road and makes her dissolute, unlucky, lost, lost her way; she is condemned to fornicate on the side, that is, she becomes a stinker.
A woman who is not the guardian of the family hearth loses contact with the Ancestor, for the only way to satisfy the Almighty is by fulfilling her natural duties. Deprived of the grace of Rod, she follows the call of her feelings, which plunge her from one absurdity to another. Such a woman takes on a well-worn look, trying to hide it under a layer of makeup.

Vedic scriptures distinguish 7 types of wives (starting with the worst):
- one who is like a murderer;
- one who is like a thief;
- one who is like a mistress;
- one who is like a mother;
- one who is like a sister;
- one that is like a friend;
- one who is like a maid.

3. In perseverance - like the earth.
Just as the Earth steadfastly fulfills its purpose in maintaining life, so the wife should be benevolent and calm under any circumstances. If a woman does not show depressingly evil inclinations, if she is prudent and not obstinate, this is quite enough for a man to decide to choose her. He should thank fate if he finds rare talents and spiritual sensitivity in his wife, and not try to meticulously look for flaws. A meek, peaceful disposition is important in a woman, and it is not so surprising to supplement these qualities with external refinement.
Mother Earth Cheese herself helps women in this ministry.

4. In beauty - Lada.
Lada - Goddess of good luck, wealth, prosperity and beauty. This means that the wife should always be attractive to her husband. Unfortunately, modern women consider it in the order of things to remain untidy and irritable in front of their husband, and when they are going to visit, dress up, adorn themselves and put on the guise of cheerful carelessness, courtesy and charm - it turns out that she is not doing this for her husband.
People who have a shallow knowledge of the Vedic culture of India are often surprised at the lack of sociability of Aryan women, who seem to be completely unaware of the presence unknown men. They like to dress beautifully - for their husband. They care for their skin, clean their hair, make eyelids black, put on jewelry - for the husband. Learn to sing and dance - for the husband. And if the husband is alive, healthy and devoted to the family - and this is a rule, exceptions to which are very rare - the woman is happy, she wants nothing more.
The main task of the female incarnation is to gain attractiveness and the ability to love her husband. First of all - the husband, and children - in the second. If the wife thinks otherwise, she will be forced to suffer herself, and dooms children to suffering. modern woman lives in the excitement of obtaining emotional pleasure and therefore earns the love of the whole world. The fear of not being loved makes her do as much good as possible. more people and the last on this list is often your own husband. To be attractive to a husband, it is enough to have high level spiritual and moral development, but in order to achieve perfection - both in attractiveness and in creating full-fledged offspring, it is necessary to have a healthy and beautiful body. According to the Vedic canon of beauty, the length of a string female figure is equal to 216 cm (1/216.000 of the circumference of the Earth is called the divine stage). For every 12 signs of the Svarog Circle (zodiac), there are 18 cm of this length. The height of a woman standing on her feet (with her hands down) is 9 signs, or 162 cm. If such a fine woman stands on tiptoe, then the top of her head rises to 173.12 cm, and she will be on a level with a proportionate man. The height of the body (without head and legs) is 3 characters, that is, 54 cm (108: 2), the length of the arms is 4 characters, that is, 72 cm (precession rate is 1º in 72 years), the length of the legs is 5 characters, that is, 90 cm (360:4), and from the navel to the tips of the fingers and toes - 108 cm each (the number of names of the god Svarog).

The advantage of men is the beard. It serves as an accumulator of spiritual strength, and it is permissible to shave it off only if you are well aware of all the consequences of this rite and use them wisely; otherwise, a man becomes unable to fully perceive neither this world, nor even the beyond. That is why in prisons and in the army they shave their heads, thereby depriving a person of individuality, specialness. In The Source of Eternal Delight (ch. 53), Balarama (White Rama), Krishna's elder brother, instructs him thus: "Cutting a person's hair and shaving off his mustache and beard is almost the same as killing him." That is why Russian peasants in the time of Peter I put together a saying: "Chop off our heads, do not touch our beards." The Word of Wisdom of the Magus Velimudra says: “The longer a person’s hair, the more God’s Power he receives, for this Power nourishes the body, Spirit and Soul of a person, and directs him to the creation and deeds of the righteous, in which the measure of everything is Conscience is an".

5. In conversation - a sage.
The girl is taught before marriage how to be attractive, how to run a household, how to become a perfect wife and mother; the young man devotes this time to spiritual development, serving his spiritual teacher. In family life, a wife becomes a student of her husband and must diligently adopt spiritual knowledge from him, thus becoming a wise, worthy interlocutor over time.
The girls studying Vedic wisdom are patronized by the goddess Vesta. Young students are called Vestal Virgins.

6. In bed - a witch.
A witch is a knowing, knowing mother. The words "witch", "sorcerer" came from the Old Russian - "to know", i.e. know. English word'witch', denoting a witch, also comes from the Old English semantic root 'whit', i.e. "to know, to know" (compare Russian - to teach). The conception and birth of a full-fledged offspring is a complex science, so a woman must be a skilled craftswoman in this noble cause, because it is in her natural destiny. But unfortunately, true value the concept of "witch" has been perverted.
The goddesses Jiva, Lelya and Rozhana help women conceive and give birth to children.
And where does it say that a woman is the Head of the Family? As I understand it, the ancient Indians, writing down the Vedas of the Slavs and Aryans, distorted everything ...

And I would also like to draw attention to the following: “A man, passing on to his wife the image of his SPIRIT - the qualities of his LIFE and the image of BLOOD - the qualities of his BREED, TAKES IT UNDER THE PROTECTION OF HIS KIND, endows her with the FEMALE PARTITION - the ability to LOVE for her husband and children, and reveals her FAMILY MEMORY - an intuitive insight into the accumulated experience of his and her Ancestors along the female line about creating LOVE relationships in the family and maintaining harmony in the house "- a man TAKES a woman under the protection of HIS KIND, and not vice versa, for a woman comes to the HUSBAND'S KIND precisely for ITS EXTENSION, and not to prolong the KIND OF THE WIFE. That's why she's MARRIED and not married...

Secondly, the author of the article, without mentioning the Bible, nevertheless “draws by the ears” the position of Judaism that only a woman is the “head of the Family”, because only among the Jews the gene pool is transmitted through the mother’s line, and not the father’s, like in other peoples ...
Among the Slavs, the main bearers of Wisdom have always been SCAMBERERS, ACCOUNTS, STORIES, MAGICIANS, PRIESTS, and quite often KALIKI PASSENGERS - and they (kaliks) could only be men.
Education (In (eating) + O (tech) + C (fishing) + Nutrition) - only MEN were engaged in this among the Slavs (do not confuse Education with Nurturing) - after Christianization everything was turned upside down - women took up the upbringing of children …
So the author of this opus is no better than the ardent feminists Clara Zetkin and Rosa Luxeburg, only she now presents the main ideas of these Jews under the “Vedic sauce” ...

Of the 10 women surveyed, to the question “Who is responsible for maintaining the family hearth?” eight answer - for two, one thinks - for a woman, another really wants a man to be responsible for everything.

Of course, most often women think about this issue. Why? We have ceased to trust our men, we have “halved” their role as a breadwinner, and we are not very skillfully trying to share our role as a keeper with them in half. Probably, the woman was just tired: life, crying children, dishes, laundry ...

But then why is she trying to take on a no less, but rather a more difficult role - the role of a breadwinner, or rather a nurse. And the most interesting thing is why men easily give up these reins of power? Slowly, however, to share with his wife the responsibility for maintaining a common hearth. Are you tired too?

It turns out that everyone is tired, and there is no one to answer. Somehow everything is not consistent and illogical. Where to take the world in the family in this situation?

I would like to remind you that over the past 20 years the number of divorces has noticeably increased, and the age of people getting married has also increased: if earlier it corresponded to about 18-23 years, now it is 26-32. And, which is completely out of the ordinary for our culture, every year the number of people who, for one reason or another, do not enter into marriage at all, is growing.

Why? Have we forgotten how to build and create a family life? Most likely, on the contrary, we are fixated on this very “construction and creation”, on loud verbs calling for action. But what actions?

We forget that a family is not only husband and wife, but also children! Look at the children who grew up in a family where mom and dad lived together, and compare them with children who grew up in an incomplete family. For the most part (not without exception, of course) - these are children with a more stable, I'm not afraid of this word, psyche, clear self-esteem and strong character.

It also follows from this: they most often create a full-fledged family, raise worthy and strong children, achieve success at work, etc. Children from single-parent families are weaker, more vulnerable, it is difficult for them to find the right reference point in their already young family, to adapt in that or other society. They seem to be in a state of struggle with themselves all the time: “Can I or not, will it work or not, do I have the right or not? ..”

It is very pleasing that today there is a powerful reassessment of all values, and especially family values. 2008 was named the year of the family. The number of weddings has increased and the number of divorces has decreased, the birth rate has risen. What changed? We, both men and women, have come to our senses? How to keep these positive changes? We can only answer ourselves.

Everyone has their own family and their own answer to the question of who should keep theirs. family hearth. It is foolish to argue that one of the two is smarter, and someone is dumber, someone is stronger, and someone is weaker. Everyone must organize himself, be responsible for himself and his actions, but remembering that at the same time he is also responsible for his family.

The family hearth cannot be considered only from the inside, there are also external issues and problems. It is impossible for everyone to be responsible for everything at the same time, order will not work. It is very important to understand that there is always a distribution of roles in everything! So it was and so it should be.

Man always been a getter, a keeper of the hearth from danger outside, his protector. Rougher, harder, more determined. Female since ancient times was the organizer, distributor of production, that is, she was engaged in the management of the internal economy and the preservation of the hearth inside! It is so conceived that by nature a woman is softer, more flexible, more affectionate, more tender. And what is most important - only a woman is given a maternal instinct, which gives her the ability to caress, give in, just love! After all, the concept of paternal instinct, as it were, does not exist.

Sometimes it can be very difficult to agree with each other and keep these positions. In such cases, you should probably think more about your children: what will happen if ... your family hearth is not preserved, and mom takes on the role of both mom and dad? What will they take away from such a family? What will they be able to give subsequently to their children and their other half?

Think about whether it is worth breaking the chain of family life, the chain of Hymen, bound by the richest experience and the correct traditions of our ancestors?

A person chooses his own destiny. But certain abilities, character traits and tasks are given to us from birth and depend on gender. You can try to argue with nature, but it is better to live in harmony with it, which will create harmonious relationships in the family.

If you are a woman who provides for your husband and your children, but at the same time you are very proud of this role, and your partner is happy with his - your relationship cannot be called traditional, but the main thing is that you are happy. However, such a balance of power suits only a small part of women and men.

We'll talk about the rest: women who dream of taking care of the house, children, doing what they can, feeling cared for. And about men who want to devote themselves to their favorite work, achieve new heights, and rest at home with body and soul.

Woman - the keeper of the hearth

So, what should a woman be like according to her main role? Everyone has heard since childhood: a woman is the keeper of the hearth. This means that it provides a comfortable environment in the house and supports warmth, which allows a man to relax after labor exploits, to restore strength.

Women's destiny is to be a caring and loving mother, to convey moral values ​​to children, and also to keep peace and harmony in the family. A woman inspires a man to new achievements, creates conditions that contribute to the successful realization of his destiny.

Man is a hunter

A man is a hunter, a getter. His energy is directed towards external achievements: building successful career, providing your family with everything you need, active work to achieve your goals.

A man feels the need to take care of the family, to protect, protect it: from poverty, from external threats, from life's difficulties. He gives his family a decent social status. Makes decisions and takes responsibility for his wife and children.

Remember your purpose. Try every day to manifest it in the most different situations. And believe me living in harmony with your nature, you will achieve much more in life.

And your loved one will earn more if you do not shoulder the role of breadwinner and protector of the family. Trust the man you have chosen as your life partner, show him that you need his help and support, that you cannot cope without him.

Understand. Pardon: Hearth Keeper

And constantly express gratitude to him even for the smallest accomplishments for the benefit of your family, support his aspirations and labor successes. And in your house there will be peace and prosperity.