Recommendations for parents on the labor education of the child in the family. Labor education of the child in the family. What parents should pay attention to
E. V. Khmelkova Vyatka State Humanities University»
Annotation. The article presents the results theoretical analysis problems of social and communicative development of children in the process of interaction between children and parents in modern research in pedagogy and psychology.
Key words: social and communicative development, preschool age, socialization, family education, communication.
The most important tasks of education in the concept of modernization Russian education are the formation of spirituality and culture, initiative, independence, tolerance, the ability to successfully socialize in society. The basic structures of the personality are laid in the first years of life, which means that the family and preschool institutions have a special responsibility for educating such qualities in the younger generation. In this regard, the problem of social and communicative development - the development of a child in interaction with the world around him - becomes especially relevant at this modern stage.
Teaching Aspergers that they have a choice, and that that choice sometimes means the right to refuse, is a process that happens over time. Once the power of options is understood and the person is given the opportunity to use the option and control many aspects of their life, there will be less reason to refuse.
Often, rejection is the result of a lack of knowledge and a preference to stay with the known. In order for them to become mature and independent, Aspergers need to be taught how to do activities appropriate to their age. Only when they know own experience what to do so that they can do it, they can do it again, do something else, or abandon the action. Planning for the night or for the weekend, spontaneous and capable of changing plans, is part of the selection and selection process.
Psychological workshop of correctional and developmental activities with children aged 6–7 years in preparing children for school
Modern children live in an era full of contradictions, saturated with information, constant changes, and the transience of events. Live communication with adults or other children is gradually replaced for them by watching TV shows, movies, computer games. The behavior of the child often repeats what he saw on the screen. Children become impulsive, it is difficult for them to control their emotions, to understand their own experiences and the feelings of others. At the same time, the problem of children's readiness to study at school does not lose its acuteness and becomes especially relevant in connection with the transition of the school to work according to new educational standards. The results of subsequent schooling largely depend on its solution. Reducing the age of entry to Russian school to six years has led to the fact that many children entering school were psychologically unprepared for it, which manifested itself in the problems associated with teaching six-year-olds. At the same time, not all seven-year-old children are ready for schooling. The problem of increasing the level of readiness for school is especially acute in connection with the introduction of new standards in primary school and therefore we offer a developed program of correctional and developmental classes to increase the level of visual-figurative thinking and emotional and motivational components school readiness at preschoolers.
Aspergers rarely love the unknown and often refuse to go to new places or do new things. When new activities, people, or unknown objects emerge, they exhibit problematic behavior. In these cases, one way to help them feel more comfortable is to develop overwhelm plans so they know the situation ahead of time. Desensitization techniques are also very helpful when a child is afraid of a situation or is sensitized by previous negative experiences. It consists in repeating all the steps that can be taken in a new situation or in knowing a new person, with the help of drawings in a series, with a drawing of a pleasant reinforcement at the end, so that the moment does not take it as strange or new.
Readiness of the child for schooling and the problem of psychological and pedagogical conditions of formation psychological readiness child to school
1.1. Theoretical aspects of the problem of psychological readiness of children for school
The problem of psychological readiness for school in recent times became very popular among researchers of various specialties. Psychologists, teachers, physiologists study and substantiate the criteria for readiness for schooling, argue about the age at which it is most appropriate to start teaching children at school. Interest in this problem is explained by the fact that, figuratively, psychological readiness for schooling can be compared with the foundation of a building: a good strong foundation is a guarantee of the reliability and quality of a future building.
The foundations for studying the problem of psychological readiness for school were laid in the works of L. I. Bozhovich, L. S. Vygotsky, V. V. Davydov, D. B. Elkonin. N. I. Gutkina, E. E. Kravtsova, T. A. Nezhnova, K. N. Polivanova, G. A. Tsukerman and others, as well as foreign scientists, whose experience was in demand in our country G. Depaul, S. C. Donough, Ch. Hook, A. Ms. Sameroff and others.
Need to pay Special attention certain social skills and create specific goals and special strategies for their implementation. Don't let them know the skills needed to social interaction, is to forget about a large part of Asperger's disability. Many of your efforts to integrate into social sphere unsuitable. Their attempts to interpret other people's social cues often lead to confusion. If we don't teach the necessary social skills to interact with others, we increase the likelihood of their social failure.
Quarrels in the family. What to do?
Almost every family has quarrels from time to time. The science of psychology says that this is even normal and not dangerous, provided that quarrels do not occur too often and end with the reconciliation of the parties, and do not develop into a scandal.
Sometimes they have difficulty with the transition to puberty. Approximately 20% have epilepsy for the first time during puberty, which may be caused by hormonal changes. In addition, many behavior problems may become more frequent and more severe during this period. However, other juveniles go through puberty with minimal difficulty.
Behavior and treatment begin to focus differently and in relation to other aspects: the differences of his son Asperger are noted more with other people of the same age; your child may remain indifferent to social events, the exploration necessary to develop a profession or the struggle for independence, while other young people enter adulthood, striving to find their place in society.
How to quarrel correctly? How to express claims to your husband without bringing the situation to a scandal? Let's talk about this serious topic. Let's try to find the middle ground together.
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When it comes to shampoos, body gels and creams, face foams and lotions, we are ready to spend the last money, convincing ourselves and others of the importance and significance of such purchases. For us, this is a kind of ritual that should be performed at least once a month - and this, by the way, is a scientifically proven fact.
Today it is hard to imagine how women would maintain beauty without all this arsenal, which barely fits on the dressing table. After all, we believe in the power of such products almost unconditionally, despite the fact that many funds still do not justify the hopes that we place on them. Recently, specialists involved in a thorough study of cutting-edge beauty products have been concerned that their composition is increasingly containing elements that, instead of the benefits promised by the manufacturer, bring harm not only to our appearance, but also to health. Therefore, in order to protect yourself from such dangers, you need to clearly know which products with which composition it is better to bypass, so as not to face unpleasant consequences later.
The sexual aspects of this period must be confronted and dealt with. He tends to think that with all the work that requires caring for and educating young people, sex education is an unnecessary issue. Nothing further from reality. Parents are the first educators of the sexuality of their sons and daughters. From birth, parents are role models and teach their children messages of love, affection, contact, relationships. The way you hold and hold your children teaches them how we treat them.
Some say that loving contact early in life already sets the tone for healthy intimacy as an adult. Parents must redefine their role as parents of a dependent child, but no longer a child. Sexuality is a part of a person's life, and in the case of Asperger's syndrome, it is no exception. The sexuality and sexual expression of people with Asperger's creates a variety of reactions. These people have feelings, needs, and sexual identities, and of course, sexuality should always be in the overall context of human relationships.
Parent meeting in 3rd grade
Subject : Labor participation of the child in family life. Development of personal properties and qualities of the child.
Target: to form in parents a clear idea of the role, opportunities, ways and methods of labor education of schoolchildren in the family.
Sexuality includes gender identity, friendship, feeling dignity, image, body awareness, emotional development and social behavior, as well as the physical expression of love, affection and desire. Your Asperger status will not interfere with the basic human rights to love and be loved, to develop new friendships and emotional relationships, to seek your happiness, and, if possible, to build your own family. This should be considered a commitment that a person with Asperger's is aware of the sex that has been received. needed help to protect against sexual abuse, exploitation, unwanted pregnancies and the prevention of sexually transmitted diseases.
Tasks: discuss with parents the problem of the formation of labor skills of the child in the family; to prove to parents the need to form in the child the need to perform labor duties in the family.
Conduct form: conversation.
Issues for discussion: work and its importance in the life of a child; the importance of the example of the family in educating the labor skills of the child; labor efforts of the child and their assessment in the family; development of the qualities of the child.
It is likely that our parents were the first sexuality educators, as they are usually the first and most frequent teachers and models. Subsequently, our peers, means mass media, religious training and life experiences have influenced our sexual education. In the context of sex education, the ability to communicate feelings is an important skill. interpersonal communication. The ability to identify and respond to a friend's or partner's emotions promotes communication and intimacy.
It is difficult for most of us to be aware of and respond to emotions and especially to emphasize people with this disability when there are difficulties in expressing their emotions or they may be inappropriately expressed or may misinterpret the feelings of others. In girls, it is important to prevent the fact that they are especially gullible and emotionally very vulnerable.
Meeting epigraph:
The best form of inheritance left by parents to their children is not money, not things, and not even education, but the education of boundless diligence.
K.D.Ushinsky
Proceedings of the meeting
I. introduction
Dear moms and dads!
We dedicate today's meeting to the problem of forming a culture of performance of work duties in your children. I chose these words as the epigraph of my speech, because everything in a child is laid in the family from infancy. Today, in the age of technology, modern society and the growing generation is different - a child accelerator, growing up in conditions material well-being. He is fed, he is warm and comfortable. For the most part, he does not need to bring a bucket of water from the street, help with firewood, feed livestock, poultry, etc. Very often we are faced with real life with situations where smart, talented people who are successful in their profession cannot be successful in their main skill - the ability to have a family and be happy. A person who does not know how to work around the house, monotonously perform the same duties, stay awake at night, shaking a child - such a person very often becomes lonely. Are we condemning our own children to adulthood to suffering and loneliness, without accustoming them to constantly work in childhood?
It is a mistake to think of Asperger's as a disorder that affects the individual, and in practice it should be seen as a disability that involves all family members. Each family and each member of the family is affected differently, experiencing feelings as diverse as pain, grief, disappointment, the satisfaction of being able to help, rejection, denial, anger, and so on. not only do feelings vary from one member to another in a family and from family to family, but they also change over time in each of them.
The experience of having an Asperger's child can be devastating for fathers and mothers, but also for other siblings, as it causes great stress and problems in the family. They should remember that these feelings are normal, that other parents of Asperger's children have already gone through them, have been able to overcome them, and with their experience can help other parents to achieve this. Consider that many parents consider it almost a "blessing of God" to have an Asperger's child, as they are much more sensitive, more expensive to develop their children, because they know that it is much more difficult for them to achieve goals.
This means that life has set before us the solution of a new and difficult task - to teach children labor skills and habits, to instill in them a love for work in conditions of "satiation with conveniences" and the solution of this task cannot be postponed until later.
II . The main part of the parent meeting
Domestic work, domestic daily duties are boring and very burdensome. According to the statistics of sociologists dealing with family problems, a woman spends 12-14 hours a week on cooking, 6-8 hours on laundry, 6-8 hours on grocery shopping, and 4-8 hours on cleaning the apartment. Agree, in order to voluntarily perform such loads, you need a great feeling, the ability to sacrifice your desires for other people, and just the ability to do all of the above things quickly and efficiently.
Each family faces this situation differently, although at different stages there are always common elements. The news is devastating, especially for parents who have long been worried, frustrated and have a feeling that something is not working properly.
At this time of diagnosis, the reactions that can be given are very varied. Denial: This is a distinctive element in which the family in general and the parents in particular deny the existence of such a diagnosis. Doctors usually don't find a physiological problem to explain the disorder, and the child's physical appearance is perfectly normal, so denial is a very common reaction. In addition, the characteristics of Asperger's syndrome encourage denial of the disorder and the belief that it will happen over time, without the need to take any action or take any action in any way and sporadically.
Do we teach this to our boys and girls, do we require them to do their homework, or do we care only about their academic success?
The task of adults is to turn the natural activity of the child into a rational activity. The most direct and reliable way to educate diligence is to activate the child from the first years of life. From the age of five, you can involve the child in the implementation of feasible assignments.
What is especially important in this regard of denial is that a number of measures that have a vital importance for the development of the child and his integration into society, is delayed. Impotence: Another very normal reaction is that the parents feel defeated and unable to deal with the problem before the real problems begin. We can emphasize the following: the father must face strange and inexplicable behavior, unpredictable reactions and meet needs for which no father or mother is a priori ready, since there are no set rules or established models or previous experience that can help, in most cases.
Acquaintance of parents with the results of the survey.
Before the beginning of the meeting, I gave you the questions of the questionnaire, which you were asked to answer. ( Appendix.)
Let's analyze your answers and draw a conclusion from this.
III . Survey analysis
Conclusion: one of the most important qualities which we must instill in our children is love for work, respect for working people, readiness to work in one of the spheres of social production. Labor should become a vital need for the growing citizen of Russia.
The need for specialized care for your child's care and attention can render them useless. Often there is also a lack of information about Asperger's syndrome and an important fear of the unknown. All this can lead to the fact that parents will have a real depression and a sense of the need to "throw in the towel."
Guilt: Almost all women, during pregnancy, at some point fear that their child is not normal or completely healthy. This feeling can be increased by the widespread psychoanalytic theory of the disease, which explains it by bad parental relationships, parents who are not very sociable, distant and unable to provide the necessary affection. It is now clear that neither parent's behavior could have caused Asperger's in a child, and even if a genetic cause is found, it is clear that the parents bear no responsibility in this regard.
IV . Generalization
Much has changed in our lives and in the lives of our children. Has become more complicated school program learning has become more difficult. So the parents make a “sacrifice”: they take on all the housework. And a consumer grows up who will demand the same attitude towards himself in his future family.
On the other hand, parents who allow their child to become a consumer are themselves lazy people. After all, instilling labor skills in your child is hard work. We must first show, then help, and then control. To do this, you need to make efforts on yourself, your will, your brain, restrain yourself, show tact towards the child and patience. Today it is not so easy. It will be easier when the child grows up and can work both in the work team and in his own home, without experiencing psychological and spiritual discomfort.
Anger: Anger is a natural result of guilt and sometimes the fact that someone should be to blame arises. Sadness makes them much more vulnerable than anger and rage. Loss: all couples consider creation ideal family, and in that moment, the perfect child who was once thought to be lost and many of the hopes and dreams created around them were broken. This deep sense of loss is at the root of all other emotions, and every person expresses it in some way. Self-pity and the desire of all to realize that they are suffering; others express this feeling in a more controlled way, remaining silent, thoughtful and sad; at other times there is such sadness that they think it would be better if the child had not been born.
The greatest reward for a child is that you turned to him for help, that he is needed, you rely on him. But the kind word of parents is also very important award, it cannot be underestimated. If the child performs his daily tasks and duties, does it well, you need to say that you appreciate and respect his work. Even if something did not work out for him, praise him anyway, do not discourage the child from working. Next time he will try to do the same job or assignment even better, because we all learn from mistakes. A kind word is always appropriate.
But if some work is done more difficult, not everyday, do not skimp on gratitude. Let him feel that you consider him an adult. The reward for hard work is moving one step into the world of adults, because next time the child will be able to do something even more difficult, and therefore interesting.
V . Summarizing
The purpose of today's meeting is to show you what you have achieved in developing your child's work skills, and what remains to be done. I ask you homework:
Tell your child how much bread costs.
Show him where the rent is paid.
Make a plan for cleaning the house, apartment with him.
Teach him how to wash his own clothes.
Good luck and success!
APPENDIX
Questions of the questionnaire offered to parents
Does the child have labor obligations in family?
How does the child feel about the fulfillment of labor assignments given to him?
Do you encourage your child to complete his work assignments?
Do you punish the child if he did not fulfill the task given to him? How?
Do you involve your child in joint work in family?
What kind of work would you consider preferable for your child?