Psychological resilience training. Why do you need emotional stability?
Interview of Denis Kazantsev with psychologist Oleg Gadetsky in Kazan after the seminars. Information taken from the site: http://kazan.hari.ru/Gazeta/gazeta52.htm
Who remembers Caesar?
- How to become psychologically stable?
Psychological stability means that a person lives in accordance with his destiny.
Otherwise, everything will constantly annoy him. He will be angry, feel inner fatigue, resentment, tension, and so on.
The presence of psychological imbalance also means that a person does not live in accordance with the laws of the universe, that is, the laws of God.
I understand that most psychologists would answer this question more "down to earth" and would talk about "stress resistance", about "emotion control" techniques, and so on.
But this is precisely the problem of modern psychology, that it thinks in such simplified categories.
Initially, in Greece, psychology was designated as the science of the soul. "Psyche" - means "soul", "logos" - "knowledge". However, take all the books on modern psychology. Do you find references to the soul or God anywhere in them? There is no such thing.
But after fifteen years of professional psychological practice, I can confidently say that all psychological problems fundamentally resolved only at the level of the soul. Why? Because they are the result of the unrealized soul.
If a person does not realize his spiritual nature, then all lower emotions begin to attack him: anger, fear, resentment, envy, greed, uncertainty. It is like if your immune system is weakened, then you become prone to disease. And therefore, just as in the case of diseases of the body, it is necessary not only to fight a separate disease, but in general to set the task of strengthening immunity, in this case spiritual immunity. If you solve it, you will overcome all diseases at once.
- What to do if colleagues at work treat you with disdain?
According to the laws of fate, this means that you yourself treat yourself with disdain.
In the life of a person who is insecure, does not value himself as a person, people will constantly come who will offend him, offend, put pressure on him.
Through other people, what is inside of us returns to us.
Others simply show themselves to us with their attitude.
The second reason is that the person himself treats others with disdain. If somewhere we treat someone in this way, then people will come into our lives who will also treat us.
Therefore, in order to change the situation, you need, firstly, to develop self-respect, and secondly, you need to wish the best for others. To do the first, you need to understand your own deepest values and needs and strive to live in accordance with them. To achieve the second, you just need to cultivate this mood in yourself.
For example, in the mind to wish happiness to others. Try it! It is also important to do some selfless acts towards others.
If a person at every job comes across a colleague who constantly criticizes and humiliates him, how to break this chain?
Such a situation means that the person himself has humiliated someone before, and by fate this reaction returns to him. It is very important to tune in to inner repentance, to ask for forgiveness for some of your wrong deeds. One of the leading modern psychologists Louise Hay, in her book The Power Within Us, writes that if you get sick, the first thing you need to do is find the person you offended. If you have not found such a person, then you still need to tune in to inner repentance.
If in different teams, for many years there are people who humiliate me all the time, it means that they teach me something. We need to learn and not blame others.
- What to do if subordinates do not obey the leader?
If this happens, it means that the leader does not understand the fundamental principles of leadership. There are two different concepts of leadership. The first and wrong one is the concept of power-based leadership. "I have power, I have money, I command and you must obey." If a person in leadership is guided by such external factors people will not respect him anyway. As soon as he shows a little slack, he will be immediately pushed back. But actually leadership means authority. Leadership based on authority is the essence of the second concept of leadership. Authority has nothing to do with the position a person occupies. Authority is based on the qualities of a person’s character: how determined he is, how he knows how to set goals, how attentive to people, shows interest in their needs, how cold-blooded he is in critical situations, and so on. Explain the difference between authority and power. How to feel this edge? Let's refer to the gospel. Caesar had all the power. Jesus had no authority. But who had the greatest influence on the people? Jesus Christ still influences millions of people. Everyone forgot about Caesar. Position-based leadership is transient. Such political leaders are quickly displaced. In fact, the ability to lead is a certain subtle energy. It is given to a person when he has the appropriate qualities. Lessons from the Tale of the Goldfish - What can disrespect for parents lead to? To diseases, destruction of fate and a restless mind. Father and mother are the two main forces of our destiny - female and male energy. They are associated with the two major planets. Through my father, the influence of the Sun enters my destiny, through my mother - the Moon. The energy of the Sun is the energy of activity. It gives us such qualities as determination, purposefulness, the ability to act, to give patronage to others. If a person has a negative attitude towards his father, he breaks contact with this force. In this case, he will not be able to act energetically, take care of others, he will become either weak, spineless or despotic, aggressive towards others. The energy of the Moon is the force that harmonizes everything. If a person breaks off relations with his mother, he breaks the connection with this force. He will have worries in his mind. He will be tormented by doubts and dissatisfaction. He will be nervous, twitchy and incapable of loving anyone. - Do parents have the right to yell at children, to punish them? Shouting means loss of authority. Margaret Thatcher once said that if you have to prove your authority to others, then you do not have it. If a parent screams and hits a child, he shows his weakness. Sometimes it is worth yelling at a child to stop him, but it is very important not to fall into these emotions of hatred and irritation. One must always act from the platform of love. There is a difference in the upbringing of a boy and a girl. The boy needs to be helped to master the two main male qualities, without which he will not be formed as a person. The first is the ability to control your feelings. Basically, the father should give it to the boy. If a man cannot control his feelings, then he will not be able to follow discipline and therefore will not really achieve anything in life. Also, the inability to control feelings will lead to energy weakness on a subtle level. In the family, this will manifest itself in the fact that relatives will treat him condescendingly, not perceiving him as a leader. The second fundamental quality male character is caring for others. A man is someone who knows how to take care and give patronage. The girl needs to be helped to develop two basic feminine qualities. The first is fidelity or chastity. Chastity means that a girl makes a choice once in her life and does not think about anyone else. In chastity is the strength of a woman. Thanks to this power, she can influence a man. If a woman is not chaste and has different objects in her head, she will not be able to make anyone happy and she herself will not be happy. The second quality of a woman is to be satisfied. To be satisfied means not to do what that same old woman from the fairy tale did. goldfish. She, as we remember, demanded more and more and eventually destroyed the relationship with her old man. Many modern women they will be indignant: if I am content with little, I will never have anything. However, if a woman knows how to accept what is given to her next to her man, then he will be inclined to give her more and more. If a woman demands, then she will destroy relations with a man. - A person cannot find a life partner for a long time, he is constantly deceived, he is disappointed. How to be? If a man cannot marry in any way, it means that he is not a man. He does not have two main male qualities. He does not know how to control his feelings and does not know how to care. Control of the senses makes it possible to be a leader. And care gives shelter and protection. A woman expects these two things from a man. If a man starts working on himself, he will be able to develop these qualities in himself and change his destiny. The same goes for the woman. She must become a woman, that is, develop the basic feminine qualities in herself. - What is your attitude to emancipation? There are women who have a very dynamic nature. If such a woman is locked up in a family, then she will not be happy. She needs to realize herself somewhere: in business, at work, in social activities. But in the family it is better for her to be a woman. If at home she strives to maintain a leadership role, then there simply will not be a family. Some time ago I read an interview famous singer Larisa Dolina. In it, she shared her experience: "When I come home," she says, "I try to be weak." So this is a very dynamic woman speaking, who is very active in life. That is her secret to happiness. It is universal for all women. And with a burnt face - a beauty! You often use the concept of "ecology of success" in your seminars and trainings. What does it mean? People strive to achieve success without knowing the laws of the universe. Therefore, along with success, money, career, various problems come into their lives. The personal plan is destroyed, internal dissatisfaction grows, depressions appear, and so on. The concept of "ecology of success" means that my success is achieved correctly, without violating the laws of the universe. How to attract material wealth and is it worth striving for? Now there are many psychological books that explain how to become rich. But not everyone has to be rich. There are people who naturally need to be rich. This is their way of realizing themselves in the world. For them it is necessary. But other people who start doing this will lose themselves as a person. They have a different way of realizing themselves in the world. If, contrary to their inner nature, they strive to become millionaires, they will simply become unhappy. Is it possible to develop immunity to failures by constantly resigning yourself to them? There are two reactions that do not change the problem. The first is the reaction of a loser, when a person agrees that nothing works out for him, and he must always receive "bumps". But what will change in his life if he treats his failures this way? Nothing. The second reaction is anger. Failure comes and a person begins to blame others. This doesn't change anything either. Failure can be changed only by starting to learn other qualities, educating yourself as a person. Anger - is it good or bad? Anger is the absence of reason. This is bad from the start. The problem is always within the person. Anger immediately tears a person away from this understanding. Let's take martial arts. If one of the fighters lost control and fell into anger, then he will lose. Anger breaks a person's relationship with life. This means that he will not receive help from life. Can fear be controlled? You can and there are different psychological techniques for this. But on by and large fear is associated with ignorance. Fear is the most common emotion in people today. What will be tomorrow? Will my daughter come home tonight? What will happen to my car? Etc. If a person knows the laws of fate, knows how they work, knows how to influence them, then fear goes away by itself. I noticed this many times in my trainings, where we analyze these topics. Fear is also associated with pride and selfishness. If a person does not know how to accept the Higher guidance, then he will constantly worry, trying to protect himself. How do you feel about people who resort to plastic surgery to look prettier? Beauty is not external, but internal concept. People don't understand this. I remember the example of one woman from Latin America. She is very famous psychologist, broadcasts on TV and radio and gathers large audiences. She teaches women the art of being beautiful. But the most interesting thing is that she herself suffered a fire and her face is disfigured by scars. The journalists made a survey among the participants of her seminars. People were asked the question: "Is the workshop leader beautiful?" Almost everyone answered that the presenter was very beautiful woman. This example shows us that beauty comes from charm, from the qualities of character. Take a woman who has perfect facial features, but at the same time, she has greed, prudence, anger. When you begin to communicate with her, what will you say: is she beautiful or not? - I'll say that she's beautiful, but... - ...but her beauty can't make anyone happy! She wants to leave. And she herself is unhappy, because she has such an inner world. Why such beauty? Why wealth, fame and beauty, which destroy a person as a person and make him unhappy? This is a very serious delusion of women when they think that in order to start a family, you need to win the heart of a man with some external attributes. But a man in a woman with whom he wants to start a family is attracted primarily by the qualities of character. Because it is with them that he will live. In the East there is ancient art How can a woman be attractive to a man? There is such art in the West too. But these are two completely different approaches. Western women attract men due to external parameters: due to cosmetics, a slit on a dress, a bust. A Western woman is very attractive in appearance. But a month passes and she is no longer interesting to a man. Because there is nothing inside. In the East, a woman can attract a man all her life, because she has certain qualities of character and knows how to use them correctly. Holy TV? - What is destiny? This cannot be answered very briefly. In the most general case, fate is the lessons that I must learn in this life. - Can you change your destiny? Depending on who ... Of course, fate is not a punishment. Fate is a lesson. She teaches me. And if I study, then the negative events that surrounded me begin to disappear. Fate is given to be changed. - Is it possible to change the fate of the person you sympathize with? There is such a thing as mixing karma. When two people come into contact with each other, they exchange karma. If the karma of one person was clean, and the other had a problematic one, then positive karma will affect the karma of the second person, and it will be easier for him to live. This happens, for example, when people get married. The fates of both of them begin to change. There is a merging of karma. The very contact with another person already affects him. If you are purer than him, then just by communicating with him, you will help him. But the greatest help you can give another is when you give him knowledge. As long as a person does not have knowledge, he will inevitably commit actions that will lead to the emergence of more and more problems. You can't change anyone's life by force. The person himself must make this choice. Through knowledge he can do it right. - How do you feel about ads like "I will clear karma"? It is possible to clear karma. There are different methods for this. However, if the healer knows all kinds of techniques that he received from his grandparents, but at the same time he has dirty habits, dirty qualities of character, it is better to stay away from him. He will give his client exactly this. A healer's prayer can help a lot. Especially if he himself is clean and has a strong faith in God. Such people can be trusted. And it is important to bear in mind one more circumstance. I'll give you an example. If your bathroom faucet is leaky, then the bath will gradually begin to fill up. A person may come and say, "Let me clean your bath." You say: "Yes, of course!" The man takes a bucket and begins to scoop out water. Your bathroom is empty again. It is a fact. But the reason has not been fixed. And after a while the bath will be full again. Therefore, at the level of extrasensory "pumping" no purification actually occurs. The reason for a person's failures is always within him. The problems that come into his life are his lessons. Until he changes as a person, the negative reality will attract again and again. - How does the law of karma affect a person? The most general understanding is that the world we live in is a teaching class. Here everything that I do myself comes back to me. Unfortunately, people today do not understand this most fundamental law of life. A woman steals her husband from her friend. But then another woman appears and destroys her family. Maybe it will happen in this life, or maybe in the next. But it will definitely happen. Everything I do comes back to me. People today live very willfully. Their actions accumulate terrible consequences. And then when everything comes back into their lives, they ask, "Where did this come from? Who's to blame? I'm so good, how did God let this happen?" - Should a person turn for help to higher powers, to God? Not what it should. This may be his choice. If a person lives without feeling that there is some high power that helps him, he will never be able to find peace within himself. In one ancient mantra, which begins with the words "Om purnam", it is explained that harmony comes from a higher whole. According to this knowledge, which the sages left us, the secret of inner harmony is very simple. If a person is connected with God, he will have a holistic inner world. If he lives, trusting only himself, he will never have complete inner satisfaction. - If something is determined by fate, will God help? The laws of karma are Divine laws. The suffering and problems that come into a person's life are reactions to the violation of these laws. If a person begins to learn the lessons of fate, then the situation changes. If I work correctly with my destiny, then by doing so I accept the will of God and His help. Interviewed by Denis Kazantsev. photo TC "Efir"
There are people who almost always know how to act with restraint and deliberately, not succumbing to emotions even in moments of the strongest upheavals. It turns out this is precisely because of the presence of emotional stability. It means the ability to find solutions in any situation, as well as not to succumb to the surging negativity. Thanks to this quality, a person can receive good results throughout his life, regardless of the circumstances.
Being emotionally stable - how is it?
The resistance of the individual to influences on the emotional background is achieved through the ability to resist unfavorable factors. Each time after failure, during the return to the normal state, a person becomes stronger, since he has already experienced something difficult. Many are familiar with such people who have experienced a very difficult life situation and at the same time remained self-sufficient individuals, ready for further development. Exactly emotional stability and saves such "lucky ones".
Rice. How to develop emotional stability?
It is worth remembering that successfully confronting difficulties the first time may not work, for this you need to work on yourself. Also, emotional stability is not manifested in all situations. Even the most the strong man may be overwhelmed by something insignificant. Each individual person goes his own way, on which he chooses the ways of his development, therefore one should not thoughtlessly imitate strong personalities.
What can be done to develop emotional resilience?
To, you need to follow a few rules. Build them into your behavior and they will begin to work for you, creating a kind of invisible shield against any shocks.
1. Know your weaknesses! If you are already long time suffer from insecure behavior, then, while realizing that in this moment you have an unprotected place on the "emotional body". Start writing in your diary weak sides and make efforts to enhance your personality.
2. Grow! Understanding your shortcomings should inspire you to take action to improve the quality of life. Think about what you need to develop at the moment and start working. At the same time, forget about postponing things for tomorrow! You need to get started today!
3. Put things in order in your head! All thoughts that appear in a person every day determine his behavior, mood and quality of life in general, so you should not neglect what is going on in your head. Imagine that all thoughts are musical compositions, and the brain is a player. What should you usually do if you don't like a song? Of course remove it! Replace negativity with positive thoughts that shape aspirations and good mood. Serious problems should not be forgotten, it is better to write down everything that needs to be corrected and make efforts to overcome specific troubles.
4. Accept bad days. Any bad set of circumstances should be a reason to change your behavior. Only in this case it will be possible to achieve positive results. Sometimes it can be very difficult to do, but tomorrow you will thank yourself for showing willpower today.
5. In addition, talk about your feelings to other people, accept difficulties as normal, develop optimism and help other people cope with their troubles. A new hobby can also affect emotional stability. But remember about bodily development, as poor health sometimes causes depressive thoughts.
6. The main rule is to remember that resilience to emotional shocks can solve many of your problems . By daily addressing this thought, you will increase the motivation to develop emotional stability. And as you know, and of course perseverance in achieving the goal.
Coping with stress is much easier when a child is emotionally stable. To achieve the required balance, parents must adhere to the following rules.
Take time to listen
When you take the time to talk with your child and listen to him, it makes the baby more emotionally resilient. Do you know what tactics active listening liberates a teenager and makes him more open? He realizes that his mother is not indifferent to his life, and begins to share his most intimate experiences more willingly. Set aside 10 minutes for heart-to-heart talk at the end of each day. Ask about problems interacting with friends, fears, worries, or situations that could lead to anger. Tell us how to deal with social failures and how to put up with disappointments, share own stories from childhood.
Children should be involved in the problem solving process
When parents are overprotective of their child, they get to the point where they can do the hard part. homework or do it for a child design work. This will not benefit the baby, because when he is left alone with the problem, he will droop and drop his hands. An alternative to overprotection is the desire to give the child more powers. Even if the baby encounters some difficulties in completing tasks, do not rush to do everything for him. First ask if the child has any ideas that could help find a solution. Unfortunately, parents rarely offer cooperation, citing lack of time, it is easier for them to do it on their own.
Stimulate growth mindset
Research shows that there are two types of mindset: the fixed mindset and the growth mindset. In the first case, the child initially knows that he is "intelligent" or "not capable of learning", and he carries this model throughout his life. school life. That is why C students do not want to go out of their way, because they are sure that they will not be able to improve their results. In the second case, children know that success comes with hard work and is proportional to the effort put in. They know how to accept any failure philosophically, realizing that mistakes and failures are an integral part of a unique experience. At the same time, the emotional stability of these children is very high. They are not afraid to tell their parents about deuces and do everything to correct a bad grade.
Fixed mindset leads to unsettling pressure where every failure is another confirmation low level intellect. This completely discourages the student's desire to learn and deprives him of prospects. A growth mindset, on the other hand, motivates you to improve and is a powerful way to train your mind. Intelligence can be likened to muscles that get stronger and stronger when used more often.
Emotional vocabulary
Every parent wants their child to show emotional intelligence and be able to communicate their own experiences intelligibly. Work on magnification vocabulary. The more evaluative definitions expressing emotional condition, will use the kid - the better. Let him not hesitate to say how immensely happy he is, why he is angry, or what made him upset. Thus, he will learn not only to distinguish feelings and emotions, but also to describe them better.
Don't be zealous with praise
Praise is comparable to oxygen, but inordinate amounts can demotivate a child. It is important to keep track of which factors you prefer to evaluate and highlight. It is believed that intelligence is given to a child by nature, so you should not praise him for being smart. But the efforts made on the way to achieving success are the merit of the student himself, so they should be appreciated. Parents who don't skimp on praise and focus on the smallest accomplishments of their child will be interested to know that excessive praise contributes to the growth of narcissistic qualities.
Avoid Abuse
When parents not only seek to provide the child with everything necessary, but openly pamper him, this has devastating consequences for the psyche of the baby. Research shows that spoiled children, as adults, experience certain problems with self-respect, trust and love. Some experts believe that pampering is a peculiar form of child neglect. Via expensive gifts, pocket money and toys parents compensate for the lack of love and attention.
However, this model of interaction deprives the child of the opportunity to form important skills that will be useful in adulthood. Children should know that material goods do not fall from the sky, they must be earned through hard work. They also need to know that you can’t always get everything you want, and sometimes you have to put up with disappointment.
Teach the Principles of Mutual Aid
To take an old woman across the street, to bring medicine to a sick grandmother, or to try to lift a kitten from a tree - all these simple truths teach children to care and help each other. Instruct the older children to read to the little ones before going to bed, give feasible assignments in the garden. Community service should not be seen by teenagers as another chance to win the praise of teachers. It's good when a child perceives this as a unique chance to ennoble the school grounds and make their own contribution to the improvement. 
Beware of criticism
Many parents think that criticism can be helpful, but it is not. When you point out the shortcomings or miscalculations of the child, it causes nothing in him but anger and anger. He becomes brash in response, becomes rude and irreverent. Such impudent behavior cannot go unnoticed by parents, and they send a second wave of criticism towards the unlucky teenager. This time they don't like impudence and rudeness. Be patient and try to respectfully listen to the story of the reasons that led to the failure.
Emotion management
Parents must have the skills of negotiators, but for this it is worth learning how to adequately respond to children's emotions. When the child is upset, the mother immediately pesters him with questions. She does this with good intentions, seeking to protect and relieve pain with advice. However, instead of asking the child why he is so upset, ask how you can help to solve the situation? Tell him that sometimes people have to put up with sadness and teach him to recognize emotions on the faces of loved ones.
From a scientific point of view, psychological stability is interpreted as the ability of a person to function adequately under pressure. adverse conditions. Esotericists believe that psychological stability is the fulfillment of one's karmic tasks in life. You can choose any point of view. Exist effective methods for the development of psychological stability in their character.
rationalization method
This method is based on the fact that it is necessary to consciously change your attitude to the situation. In this case, the situation becomes less traumatic for a person. Most conflicts can be resolved by your efforts. You can not direct the conflict inward, as this can resolve your internal energy. In order to master this method, it is necessary to reduce the emotional coloring of the event that happened to you. Turn off the emotional background. Give yourself the installation "it's good that ...". Watch your speech, even in your thoughts do not say "it's a pity that ...", "how could this happen." If you are already in, then think not about him, but how to resolve the situation.
Switching method
The ability to switch in time is a great gift. Most often, we dig into our emotions and begin to analyze what has already happened. This happens especially often if the situation is protracted. Switch to what you love. It could be yours favorite hobby, meetings with friends. Spending time with friends, laughter and humor helps a lot. The main thing in this case is to get positive emotions and get rid of the negative.
Catharsis Method
Catharsis is a spiritual cleansing of the body, a way to neutralize negative emotions. Catharsis was used more than two centuries ago by Aristotle himself. Catharsis was actively used in psychotherapy for the treatment of neuroses. In the modern sense, catharsis can be seen as a sincere conversation with friends. You should not experience troubles alone, as not everyone can cope with the problems that have piled up. It is better to talk with a loved one.
Method of "paper complaints"
This method is used by many since childhood, but is often forgotten over the years. Almost every person in childhood had a diary in which we wrote our experiences and problems. In adulthood, putting your thoughts on paper will help you understand yourself and solve the problem. Keep a notebook in which you will record your thoughts during the conflict. When you write everything you think is necessary on paper, reread it later and add the right information. You can also write an action plan.
All methods are good, but the main thing to remember is that there are no unsolvable situations. In most cases, an optimal solution can be found. It all depends on your efforts and ability to be psychologically stable.
And if emotions control a person, he can be effective manager(manager)?
Let me give you a familiar situation. Morning meeting. The boss is screaming, his face is red, distorted with righteous anger, he can hardly find words that replace the understandable Russian mat. Employees listen, not because they like it, but because their salary depends on the manager. But response emotions are born inside, there are words that the inner voice pronounces without any censorship, since they will not be spoken aloud. As a result, negatively emotionally charged employees go to customers and pour out all the contents of their spiritual basement in the form of emotions on them. Customers are dissatisfied, they are outraged, so they emotionally convey their indignation at poor service to that same boss.
Morning meeting. The chief shouts... And so every day. Business collapses, health goes. And there's nothing you can do - emotions! Or is there something that can be done? At least think.
The boss screams because he is bitter to see how customers carry money to another place.
According to the theory of psychologists W. James and C. G. Lange,
The boss is bitter because he screams.
Another insight into the situation:
The boss is screaming for
To influence employees
and he is bitter and bad for
to make it work.
Oddly enough, it works, each time a negative experience is successfully acquired, leading to the collapse of the business and the loss of the last remnants of health. So, we thought, is it true that nothing can be changed? After expressing such thoughts to one nice girl, the head of the sales department of a large chain store, she said: “After these reflections, the question hung in the air!” Good. Sometimes questions are more important than answers, while we think, there is a chance to change everything for the better.
Another situation. It so happens that girls at work are more "related" than working. For them, it is important who came in what, what news in their personal lives, who left whom, how they painted, and it is imperative to sort out the relationship with the one who dared to come to work in the same shoes as mine. The whole attitude is conveyed with the help of rich, often negative emotions, and by dinnertime, emotions are unwinding so that work fades into the background. Clients interfere, because inside the mass of the unspoken boils, and they with their own problems.
· Whoever works in a women's team can imagine this.
Of course, not always and not everywhere, but it happens. Behind all this rejection and showdown are different reasons. But when the management tries to put things in order, the scandalous young ladies cite an iron argument from their point of view, for example, this: “after she told me this, I just could not restrain myself and exploded!”. What does it mean in translation, after I heard some words, I relieved myself of the obligation to be a decent person and allowed myself to emotionally misbehave.
· Because when emotions came, they began to lead the person, and not he them.
And if the leader believes in the sacred right of his subordinates to make trouble, and not to work, hiding behind surging emotions, then the prospects for the prosperity of the business become very vague.
I think that good manager, is an emotionally stable manager. Why is that? The answer is simple. Negative emotions are expensive. Firstly, in terms of money, and secondly, the most precious thing - health - is wasted. Customers often take money where they are welcome, even if they buy worse products than from a gloomy and unfriendly seller, but offering a better product. Simple truth, smile, friendliness, joy - money attracts. Other emotions and states - anger, irritation, inattention, money "scare away". Since mind and body are very connected systems, then negative emotions have a strong impact on health. If there is constant negativity in the head, and emotions of irritation and anger on the face, then over time, the person acquires the appearance that he deserves. A mask appears on the face “Do not fit in - it will kill!”, The body becomes like a transformer box, the head is constantly buzzing, because it is hard to carry a lot of negative experiences in oneself. Such people no longer think about successful, effective, beautiful life- to survive. And any employer tries to get rid of such people, because they cannot work effectively.
But if the negative emotions that interfere with work are just a habit, what to do?
You can learn how to manage your emotions in Sinton at the training "World of emotions: self-management»
As Epictetus said: “What remedy can be found against habit? The opposite habit.
Dominating your emotions is as good a habit as brushing your teeth in the morning, washing your face, saying hello! When we were small children and did not know how to do any of the above, but we learned. Good news It's never too late to start managing your emotions. Especially if you understand how it can be beneficial.
A wild cat, falling into a trap, is silent. Because it's profitable. She knows that if she yells in the forest, she will quickly get eaten in the wild world of forest competition. Step on the tail of a domestic cat - it will yell. A domestic cat in the forest will not survive, she hopes that she will always be taken care of, fed, cared for, protected. The essence of emotions is such that their control leads to success, the lack of control leads to addiction and defeat.
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